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I know this guy since longtime.. recently we got in touch and since then we message, call, chat regularly.. (we stay in two different places.. so this is the only way we can stay in touch)..

recently he quit his job and joined a new Company. And since then we don't talk much.. he still calls whenever he z free but not as frequently as earlier..

I understand he is busy and I give him his space.. however I wonder if its cos he z busy with work that he doesn't call or if he losing interest in me..

so I would like to know what I can do to keep his interest?.

*** help!

Also during the one/two days time he shifted jobs, I kind of told him I like him and he told me he likes me only as a friend and that would remain the same forever. (he z never been in a relationship before, and is the kind of guy who avoids relationships)

could it be cos of this that he has not been calling that frequently ?

In any case, *** tell me what I can do to keep his interest and keep him thinking about me.. ;)

(IM QUITE SERIOUS ABOUT HIM AND HOPE THIS WORKS OUT!)

You can not keep anyone's interest,Wife can do with the help of sex.
But that also help to some extent.Love is inner feeling,a bound which keep us together..
It's like an ehsaas jo hume jore rakhta hai.. But since u are saying that he wants to be
Your friend,so it will never work out as a lover.However,u are away from him and you
Can'tr meet him too.So it's better that u keep some distance with him.Don't be available
For him.Whenever he is having time,he used to call you.. Ryt? Now you don't be available
For him.May be that will realise him that what he is missing and he will try to make
Everything okay.. If u will try more,he will be apart from you more.. So don't try.. Accept
The worst and then let time do everything for you.. After all it's luck and destiny which
Decides what is going to happen in future.. All the best dear.. Be happy always..

Thank U so much.. ill try what U suggested.. :)

Your interest is a lot more than his, and that may never change at all, so things working the way you want them is slim. I think its best to not hold on to false hope and make other friends to chat with, and have some real life friends to hang out with and do fun things with.

He is 5yrs elder to me.. (im 22, he is 29).. treats me like a kid, cares for me, calls me often..

I have totally fallen for him for the way he treats me.. I know him for many years thought we were not in touch. Its only recently, after I met him we are in regular contact.

How do I know if he likes me generally or is it something more..

How can I make him feel the same for me ?

He treats you like a KID?

If he was interested he would treat you like a women, also, if a man is interested, shy or not, he will make it his business to be around her and/or ask her out on a date.

Don't wait around waiting on him, he may have no romantic intentions towards, just because he is nice to you,does not mean he loves you.

How will I know if he is flirting over the phone?. what signs should I look out for..

Considering he is 5 years elder to me and we know each other for many years (we only knew each other we don't know about each other till recently)..

We talk over the phone regularly..

Guess its too early for us to have any sexual talk..

OK.. guys.. would you flirt with a girl 5 years younger to you?. how will flirt ? What signs would you show her (without making it look too obvious.. ) if talking over the phone/chatting is all you can?.

If yes.. then what could be the reason s ?

U know each other since very longtime.. you like and care for each other..

But when the girls wants to take if further, why would a guy deny his feeling s ?

And is it possible that even after you deny your feelings (strongly!) you continue to talk to her and behave with her normally ?

A) Yes I would deny my feelings if the love was only one sided.

B) I would not deny my feelings if a girl wanted to take it further, I would only delay it if it was too soon.

A question of my own, do you sometime feel like your getting used by this guy?

No!. what made u think so?. he helped me a lot.. and I did nothing for him.. (though I always wanted to) . He doesn't open up much.. guess he thinks I'm too young to handle :(

he z very practical, mature and little shy.. ;)

He might feel close to you as a friend, but it doesn't sound like he's interested in you romantically. You might be confusing friendliness with romantic feelings.

Has he ever told you that he loves you?

He sounds like a friend to me. But I suspect because you want more, you assume that he does too.

Assuming is a good way to get carried away by false hope. Ask him if he has a girlfriend, next time you talk?

He has never been in a relationship! :-| and he tries not to get into one.. :
Now he calling normally like earlier.. :)

Could you be too available for him?

No.. I don't think so.. I attend his calls most of the time.. I never call him though.. I call him only when I get too restless waiting for his call..

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No.. I don't think so.. I attend his calls most of the time.. I never call him though.. i call him only when i get too restless waiting for his call..

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I think, though you think you're not too available, that you are. I think this because I've been in your shoes before, lots of times.

Why don't you just call him whenever you feel like it? Why so many mind games?

You can't get to know each other better if you're not talking to each other.

We have no idea how he feels, but if you're interested in him, why not set up opportunities to get to know each other better, such as talking on the phone or setting up a date.

Do you relly like him? If you don't then I think you should find a man that respects your time. If you do love him then keep trying to get HIS ATTENTION!