A few months ago I found out my boyfriend liked another girl while we were in a relationship. He said he wanted to tell her to get "rid" of the feelings. Sadly, this broke my heart the fact that he was never planning on telling me about it. He told me reasons he liked the girl, and those reasons were not the same reasons he liked me. He told me he wasn't going to talk to her again. BUT he ended up talking to her in secrecy without telling me about it. I found out, he was texting her a couple of times and Im not sure how many types he IM her on skype, but I know that he would get on it a lot even though I wasn't on. He also told me that they both agreed not to talk anymore but he was always initiating the conversation. He would always started it either way. If I didn't find out he probably would have kept doing it until this day. Now he says he has no feelings for her but I feel like he is in denial about it.idk. I need some advice .

If you feel you can't trust him you don't have much of a relationship.
How old are you?

Harshness warning

If it's not this girl, it's probably going to be another girl.

The problem isn't that he keeps talking to this girl. The problem is that he doesn't feel satisfied with the current relationship, but he's not doing anything about it. Instead, he's running to the other girl to fill the void that is missing. By combining you and her, he gets a complete girl.

The two of you have some hard questions to answer and it sounds to me that you're not willing to face those tough questions. The question isn't whether he should stop talking to this girl. The question is whether the two of you should continue this relationship.

If you aren't happy with each other, then you're better off going your separate ways.

You don't need advice, you need a better boyfriend.

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Thanks for the advice.

I think I wish nailed it and as it seems you are not happy together -why stay together?

Do your own thing,enjoy your life and leave him to his Skyping.

But I love him and we do have our happy times, I just wish we could work at fixing it or making it better instead of just ending it.

It takes two to tango and there seems to be no honest communication here.

He goes behind your back,how could you trust him again?