My boyfriend can get me off fine and great, and he's a good kisser. But he doesn't shower regularly and I don't think he brushes his teeth on a regular basis either.. I would be so much more willing to do things with him if he didn't stink. And he's noticed a change in how sexually interested I am in him. How do I tell him that he smells disgusting? Ive already tried doing more stuff with him after he's showered and less when he doesn't but he doesn't get the hint...

How old are you both?

We are both 18 and in college. Like he's 18 I shouldn't have to be the one to tell him that he needs to shower everyday

I agree... likely because he just started college and thinks he can do anything he wants. And if that means smell like a gym locker...

I'd just flat out tell him, you stink, brush your teeth and shower. Its clear he isn't getting the message so far. He might get upset, but being subtle hasn't worked.

I just don't want to hurt his feelings.. but your right there's no other real option

You tried subtle... and it didn't work. You aren't going to be happy hanging out with pigpen... so its either walk or be direct. And he may not even notice it... you get used to your own stink. But he needs to be made aware of hygene issues before everyone around him starts keeping their distance... and it will happen eventually.

Smelling bad one day is one thing... but this is consistent. And if he gets a reputation for smelling like a dirty laundry hamper... its going to be hard to change it.

Communication isn't only telling your lover that he's a great kisser. Start with an "I" statement that's positive:

"Sweetie, you are the love of my life, and I am so turned on by your fantastic kisses, but since you don't brush your teeth or take showers very often, my turn-on gets very easily turned off."

Shower with him? Buy him an electric toothbrush? (but then you'll have toothpaste spatters all over the sink, mirror, and wall... )

Does he ever visit a dentist? Neglect of his teeth and mouth could become a major health problem.

Although my boyfriend is spotless clean, he has a habit of not brushing his teeth also! He's almost 25 and reckons just chewing gum eliminates the plaque and smell... not likely and he expects poor me to kiss him? But I refuse to until he brushes his teeth. And you know what's more frustrating? I actually tell him bluntly " brush your ****ing teeth, the smell is making me sick", but do you think he will learn? Nope. I just hope when you tell your boyfriend that it will only have to be once.

If he cares he will adjust his ways... if he doesn't. Conside it might actually get worse... once he isn't trying to impress you.

Personally... they might be the nicest person you ever met... and have a wonderful personality. But if they smell like a garbage dumpster behind the fish market in July... it just ain't going to make up for that funk.

Just be straightforward and honest, and that will work far better than sending cryptic messages and being rude about it. Just because "being subtle hasn't worked" doesn't mean it's time to be a jerk. Sometimes being too subtle is an issue.

This is borderline extreme. Caution!

Give it back to him.

If you don't need to see anyone for a few days...
Eat onions , while doing aerobics with the heater on.
No deodorant , no perfume, for three days. Or four.
Sleep with sushi in your niteware.

When you can't stand yourself , jump him;)

And tell him the smell of a dead body is surprisingly erotic
To you now , and this smell is all about him!
:cool: Light Necrophilia , the next rage of the zombie age.

You may have his attention enough at this point to get
Your point across.

If he isn't going to bathe he doesn't get any sex. Simple as that.