Why am I not successful with girls?
Hi!
I'm a 29-year-old guy who would like to get some advice from you. The point is that I'm trying to create a stable relationship (marriage in mind) but without much success. For example, I have been going out on a date with a girl [she's 21] I like ( 4 times so far). The first three times she appeared interested, whereas yesterday she asked me to remain just "friends". I don't know whether to write or call her again... On the one hand, she sort of asked me to express my feelings for her more openly (verbally). On the other hand, once I did that, she kind of lost interest and produced the " remain just friends" formula.
I don't understand: Do girls lose interest in me because I'm so nice to them, always well-behaved, cultivated? Or they might be interested just in material things?
Ok, by nature I'm a bit shy, (does this mean lack of confidence/security to them?)but a good talker, and with a good sense of humor.
What do you suggest?
Thanks!
Comment on ironhide262's post
Yeah, I think you're right. I might have conveyed lack of attention on my part by not spending more time talking to her over the phone, or not getting closer to her physically speaking. I don't know...
Thanks!
Comment on talaniman's post
Yes, you're right but I really think I have fallen in love with her. I miss her a lot when I don't see her (except her photo on Facebook... lol) , or hear her voice over the phone. I think she's not completely uninterested either.
Should I ,as the last attempt, try to talk with her longer on the phone? This also considering the fact that I can't (due to her school schedule as well) meet with her very often (for example, on weekends I'm available but she travels to her hometown - where she actually lives).
Comment on talaniman's post
Ok, thanks for the answers.