Is it possible to get him back?
My ex broke up with me at the end of January because of me being too 'needy' and dramatic basically. We had been dating for over a year and we are a little older (I am 20 and he is 25).
Basically what happened was this: recently, I had taken too much anger out on him. I pushed him too far in a fight, and he broke up with me a few days later, stating that I was too dramatic. I gave him a few days and asked him to talk. He said yes, and all throughout the week (we were going to meet on a weekend) he continued to talk to me. When the weekend came, however, he refused to come down, saying that he 'couldn't handle face-to-face' contact right now.
A few days later, he started talking to me again. I esentially asked him to stop, and now we haven't talked in like six weeks.
I know he hasn't moved on to anyone else (though a 'friend' of mine did send him dirty videos - which is a different story). It's been almost two months since we broke up. I was doing fine for a while - I worked on myself and figured out why I was so needy and such. But, now I want him back. Is that possible? How do I do it?
Thanks!
How to get my ex back after 4 months of NC?
My ex broke up with me in January after about a year together. I was 19 (since turned 20) and he was 25. When we met, we started dating two days later - our attraction was instant and he is still the love of my life.
We were very happy throughout the relationship - we barely fought, rarely had problems. However, in November, I started to get very insecure. I was unhappy with my school life (I am a theatre major and want to be an actor. I was starting to do a lot of stage management, and I was extremely unhappy with it - I hated it but didn't know how to get out of it... I was so, so miserable. To top it off, my parents started having intense fights, and I would get phone calls while at college about them and get fought with and stuff like that... it was hard). I didn't tell him about it because I didn't want to stress him out anymore (which was weird, because we told each other everything)
During Winter Break, I was just a wreck - every time I thought about going back to school, I would get so scared and angry - and then there was always another fight going on with my parents (I live at home during breaks). Whenever that happened, I would push him - like fight him on nothing, or not tell him I love him so he would say it more. I wanted to get a rise out of him so I felt better about myself - so I would push him to make me feel better. I even tried to break up with him once because I knew he would push to stay with me. I HATE myself for what I did - I was just a needy, insecure ***** who didn't deserve him.
When January came around and I started doing more Stage Management, I was even more miserable than before. I got in a large fight over him not wanting to wait for dinner - and he broke up with me, rightly so. He should have - I was horrible. After about two weeks of trying to get him to come talk to me, I started No Contact. We haven't talked since.
For a long time, I was convinced he broke up with me because he was an *******. I am in pretty intense counseling, but I think I've worked through a lot of my issues. I stopped doing Stage Management, started acting more, stopped picking up the phone when my parents called, got new housing for the summer, and am actually really happy for the first time. I have great new friends that I got because of the breakup, and I very much enjoy who I am right now. The only thing missing is him.
How do I break NC and start talking to him again to get him back? He is not with anyone - all he really does is like sext a bunch of random girls from his new school - he hasn't found anyone else. I know I screwed up and there has to be a way to show him that I'm better - I've worked on my issues, and I want him back.
