I'm nearly 15, and I'm having a bit of a hard time at the moment. There are a lot of problems in my family, and I'm in therapy for them, but it's not really doing me that much good. I think there are rumours going around my school about me, and people keep asking me if I'm a lesbian. My (homophobic) best friend has now abandoned, at a time when I really need a friend. But, to be honest, I hate her now, because she is homophobic, and she is not a good friend. I am not a lesbian, but I have nothing against them. If I was a lesbian, I don't think I would mind, and I wouldn't mind if people thought I was a lesbian, but the way the act around me now is really hard to cope with. Lots of people avoid me in the corridors at school, and I have no real friends. Also, I've received some abusive emails, and Facebook messages from a girl at my school. I'm really hoping someone could help me out, because this is really difficult to cope with on my own.

I just read your other thread when you first asked about what to do regarding the cyber-bullying. If I'm correct it looks like you're confused about your dating preferences, which isn't surprising around your age. I'm also a little unclear about your age, are you almost 15 or are you 12? Either way it's a confusing age for sure... I've been there!

First thing is first: bullying/cyber-bullying, and homophobia are really terrible aspects of our society today and I am sorry you are the victim of both. Please hang in there and continue being open with your therapist about these things.

It's a shame your "best friend" left you in this time of need, but she's not worth it anyway so good riddance. I think everyone, at some point in primary or secondary school, goes through a phase where it feels like the whole world hates you and is judging you. I have totally been there a couple times. Sometimes I brought it on myself, sometimes people were just cruel for no reason. When all of my classmates were saying mean things about me and bullying me, my dad told me to just ignore it. The ONLY REASON the bullies are gaining power is because you are paying attention to what they're saying. If you don't feed the beast, it will die. It's not easy being bullied, and I wish I could give you a magic solution that would just make it go away. Ignoring it will at least ease your mind.

You might find it nice to find activities outside of school to participate in such as a club sport or activity, or youth group. That way you can make friends outside of your school and it will make school more tolerable.

Finally, delete or suspend your Facebook account. At least for now. No need to give the kids at school another avenue through which to bully you. Another option is to block the accounts of your bullies so they cannot be your friend nor can they search for and view your public profile.

I hope the storm ends soon and things with your family improve. You can always talk to us if you need anything. Stay strong!

Thanks, this was really helpful for me. Sorry for the confusion about my age, its meant to say "I'm nearly 13" but I mistyped. Thanks for the advice.

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Sorry southamerica - I tried! Just wanted to say you had some good suggestions, especially about blocking the accounts of the bullies from the posters Facebook account. Hopefully Tearz will take some of your advice!

I hope you've still got the abusive messages. If so, you need to print those out and bring them to your principal's attention. If you're nervous going in there on your own, ask one of your parent's to come in with you.

The truth is, that like southamerica said, everyone goes through a phase where everything is confusing and it feels like everyone is out to get you. A lot of these bullies are probably just as confused as you. And unfortunately they have this terrible idea that if they can make someone else feel worse, they'll feel better. And for the most part, ignoring it is best. There's usually no point in saying anything back to them. But it should be brought to teachers and other adults attention that their behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable.

I hope you'll keep us updated and that things get better for you. And you can always come here if you need another place to vent. Even if it feels like therapy isn't helping now, I hope you'll stick with it. It's not an instant fix. I was in therapy for a long time before I realized that it was actually helping me.

I have a best friend and we're exstremly close we use to talk for hours, we call each other "love", we cuddle, and give each other kisses that's it my parents for a year have accused us of being lesbian just because of those reasons and it's getting really annoying because we're not and I don't have a boyfriend and they're always on my case on why I don't and I tell them ,because guys aren't asking or doing anything. And the one guy that has basically asked me to be friends with beifits. Mind you I move every single year and don't see the point of dating a guy yet. Me and my best friend fight a lot because of my parents and how they treat us and right now our friendship is suffering it's like my parents don't get me and I'm leaning on her for comfort I just don't know what to do with my parents.and like they're also mad because they think all I do is talk to her but yet I'm spending more time helping and doing things for them then talking to her it's coming to the point I just want to move out asap. I'm going to Texas and they're not okay with that either I just feel I have to be somebody that I don't want to be my parents have set rules that I don't listen to they tell me I can't call her love, I can't cuddle her, I can't give her kisses. And it makes me feel like I have to be sombody else around them and have to go behind they're back to do these things and it's really effecting my relationship with them and my end my best friend came down and got so upset because she didn't feel welcomed at all like our trip we had to act how my parents wanted us to do it was almost like they were treating us like they're extremely homofobic and that I was lesbain and it's really hurting me and I feel I can't taking it anymore I don't know what to do anymore because I'm not leaving my best friend or stopping anything I do with her just because they're too homfobic and think things I'm not! I just want help so I honestly can relate to your story I just live at home with it 24/7...

Lol... me I get bullied though. I think because of my terrible walked.. I get bullied by my friends and my brothers.. which I am not.. and when they saying to me that I am a lesbian I'm starting crying at night.. and yeah it hurts when they saying that I am "lesbian" I feel like I want to be in a relationship with a guy to show them that I am not.. :/ :'(((((