Hello.

I've recently began being active in regards to dating, and I'm courious as to why I'm unable to ejaculate during the first few times of sexual intercourse.

I don't really consider it a problem because it's not anything lasting, just in the beginning. But I am however curious.

It's been this way ever since I can remember, I just forgotten all about it since I've spent the last 4 years with my ex.


Now to provide abit of detail:

When starting I spend a great deal of time, getting the girl worked up so the penetration is as gentle as it possible can be.

I am constantly listening to my partner to find out what get's her off and what doesent feel as good. I like doing that, I get pleasure knowing that I'm doing good, but sometimes I might focus too much on it.

Everything sexual feel's the same, it differs a little but not a whole lot, and everything feels great.

Last night we spend 4 hours trying to complete it, and then again 1 hour when we woke up.
I told her that, with a new partner this is natural for me but I can't shake the feeling that she might feel lesser or something because of it.

So.

Is it a kind of mindblock the prevents me from completing the sexual act?

Something I can tell her besides that makes her believe that it isent her but me?


/(I'm 25 years of age)

How often and how hard do you masturbate?

You might have trained yourself to your hand and the stimulation you get from a woman just isn't right enough for you to finish.

That is about all I can think of at this point. Besides the usual, have you gotten yourself checked out by a doctor?

It could be as simple as you are nervous or anxious. Over thinking things, and over worried.

I haven't noticed how hard, but it's rather fast..
I'm thinking perhaps 1-3 times a week.

I haven't gotten checked myself out by a doctor no. I don't consider it a problem, I was just curious.

Thanks for both replies, may be that it's a combination of both.