Hi there four months ago I meet a man on a dating site, we had a few dates and got on really well.
After the second date he told me his wife died only four months before of Cancer,
I nearly fell of my chair. He looked after her for three years before she passed away.
But with in a month he told me he had fallen in love with me, ummm .
I have been divorced for three years, had a few boyfriends but have never felt like I do with this one.
Everything was great texing me telling me he loves me then bang
He tex me every morning and say love u .but it feels like he is only saying it because he has to.
We have been seeing each other every weekend, As we live seventy miles away from each other and both work.
I do have a wall up a little because I don't want to get hurt again,
But he doesn't ring me in the evenings any more, and yes he does tex but not as much.
Please help do u think he went into a relationship to quick.
I can take it on the chin what ever u say so please help.
Lynn

I think its highly possible he is still has some healing to to because 8 months may or may not be long enough for him to have mourned and healed. And 4 months of knowing each other is not very long either, and you do well to keep an emotional distance and not get so carried away to fast with this guy.

That doesn't mean you can't have fun though.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.



He may not be quite over the trauma of losing his wife, he could be even feeling some guilt for enjoying his time with you.
Just tread lightly. Don't let yourself get in too deep.

Thank you for your help.
What you have both said is what i have been thinking.
I will keep an emotional distance,