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  • Mar 4, 2011, 04:42 AM
    lisasaysheya
    Am I right to end it with my man or do I need my nutty pills
    I found a woman's number on my b/f fone in his recent contacts 9 days ago witch I was told was a friend off his since he was 5, he hasn't spoken or needed her as a friend in the 6 yrs we have been together that I no of. He said that he text her to congratulate her on getting her little boy back as he was put in to care?? I asked how he new this an he said hed spoken to her on fb.I told him I need a day to sort my head out an he said he would go an give me sum space. We arrange to meet in town later that day I went to meet him. I met him on time he wasn't late it had been raining all after noon I was soaked he was bone dry. I questioned him about this an he said hed been to someonnes house I asked him if hed been to the girls house an he said yer he went round there to see her an her little boy we went bk to mine an was distant we argued about her he said I was ugly couldn't get myself a bloke I'm a slut I'm a whore an I'm crazy in the head he told me that the girl was going away for 2 weeks an she said he could stay in her flat an that he could go there after the wkend he wasn't around much after that when he supposedly went to pick the keys up he said he would be an hour he was 6 hours we had a row after hed been there for 3 an I told him not to come an see me he did he turned up an I didn't want a scean for my neighbour to c so I let him in I did say to him I don't believe you got the nerve to come bk here he said I was off my head an I need to go back on my nutty pills I suffer from a depressive illness an have been off my nutty pills for 2 yrs not easy an he said he wasn't going to argue with me I went to bed absolutely fuming, got up nxt morning didn't speak he went off to hers on Monday as hed planned she's meant to be away, before he went he said to me ill meet you tomoz an ill take you round the flat. He went off I couldn't shake it that I must be crazy to believe all this stuff about her being away. Met him nxt morning as arranged he was late he never tookme to the flat we never even went past it I was busy for the rest of the day we txted a bit in the evening. Next day I went to meet him at his mums an wait for a sofa he was ova an hour late bythe time he got there I was fuming an wanted to go home he had a go at me for being moody. I said I'm going come up later he said your a fing slut your ugly that's why you can't get a bloke you fing whore he said there's nothing going on she's away he said he loves me he said I should be happy he's go sum wer to stay. Every part of me screams don't trust him he lying am I being unfair not wanting this no more I'm 35 he's 27 I have 4 children he has none but has said he should be wiv sum1 wiv 1 kid I asked to see the keys to the flat, he said he hasn't got them he hides them in a place in case her sister or her friend want to go round there. He couldn't look me in the face when he said it an then he said I twist things I said if you can't answer my questions we have a problem I told him I'm done not to ring text come see me because I'm done an I really am this time not the first time. First 4 yrs of us being together his ex used to come banging on my door saying she had seen him please help sorry its long just tryIng to get everything in
    Many thanks lisa
    Thanks lisa
  • Mar 4, 2011, 06:38 AM
    Jake2008
    I'd really like to take a stab at helping you with this, but I have to point out why I can't.

    It is impossible to read. No paragraphs makes it seem like one long sentence, and it is hard to follow.

    Text speak. That is not allowed, and posts are regularly deleted if there is text speak.

    That also makes it impossible to read, or understand fully. At times it seems like two different languages.

    If you could perhaps try to write your post, without text speak, and in proper sentences and paragraphs, that would most certainly result in far better, and more, responses.
  • Mar 4, 2011, 07:16 AM
    lisasaysheya
    Comment on Jake2008's post
    OK thank you. I'm dyslexic I'm sorry I will try
  • Mar 4, 2011, 04:36 PM
    QLP

    I didn't manage to read all of that but the bits that jumped out at me were the fact that he calls you ugly, a slut, a whore with a whole lot of cursing added in there. His reaction to your depression is to tell you to get back on your nutty pills?

    Heck I think I'd be depressed if I were hearing that from someone who is supposed to care for me.

    Why on earth do you want to be with this person?

    So in answer to your question yes you should end it in my opinion.

    As for the antidepressents, it's hardly the place of your bullying boyfriend to advise you on that. Maybe getting rid of someone who is treating you so badly will be all you need, but don't be afraid to get advice from your doctor if you feel down.

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