We've been dating for almost 5 months now and things are just getting worse. When it started he was really sweet and was trying to be my friend as much as my boyfriend, which I though was a really good sign. But after about a month he started trying to get me to try to do physical things that I honestly wasn't okay with and I had no problems with telling him that. Then he started trying to convince me that dressing a certain way would be better because it would be easier for him to do things and I don't want to do things to start with! But he keeps going and going and eventually I told him I was fed up because he just wanted a body, not a girlfriend. He did a 180 and was completely sweet and nice and telling me he loved me and begged me to understand he was sorry... this lasted about an hour and then he was right back to being innapropriet. I tried to say "look I'm just starting high school and those aren't the kinds of things I want to remember when I tell people what high school was like for me." and he pretends to understand and convienently forgets soon after... he being doesn't like me being close to my family and every time I have a fight with my mom or my brother he tries to use it against me and say that this is why I only need him. He's gotten controlling, telling me to choose between him or my brother and him or all my friends because the way he sees it they'll aske me to make the decision one day because he's going to tick them all off eventually and he wants to know that I just need him and nobody else. It bothers me. A lot of days he can be moody and rude, calling me anorexic every time I do something active or fat every time I eat =/ It makes me kind of unsure about the way I look even though I know I'm not over or under weight... He also likes to make fun of my hair, saying I'm stupid because I'm blond when honestly most days I outsmart him. This is my first relationship and I have no idea what to do... I don't want to just say "Hey I don't like you anymore, see ya" because when he is being nice its really easy to still care about him but at the same time I'm losing sleep because I'm just so frustraded and tired from trying to figure out what to do... can anybody help me?

Well, I could drive over to your house, and you could pay me to tell him. Of course, you'd have to stay away from him and not do any phone calling or texting with him.

I could send him $1,000.00 to stay away from you for the rest of your life, but you'd have to behave yourself too and stay away from him.

I could build a high fence around you or put you inside a plastic bubble, so he can't get near you and sweet-talk you into being with him.

I could kidnap you and move you to a far away place where the two of you would never see each other again.

Or you could make it easy on both of us and simply cut him loose with "Goodbye" and then have nothing to do with him.

Oh, by the way, he's a control freak.

This guy is total garbage.. he put's your down, want to distance yourself from your family and friends.
He's keeps pushing you to things you don't want to do. I'm pretty sure he doesent have any respect for you.

My suggestion would be: I'm sorry I don't want you in my life anymore, go play on the highway.

Another approach would be: I'm sorry, I can't do it anymore - I need to find myself, or some other line!

Best of luck..

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Originally Posted by ken007nielsen

My suggestion would be: I'm sorry i dont want you in my life anymore ... I'm sorry, i can't do it anymore

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He doesn't deserve an apology ("I'm sorry").

He doesn't even deserve an explanation.

Torieann, how old are both of you? I am asking because you mention 'starting high school'.

We're both 15, I'm a freshman and he's a sophomore

"Hey I don't like you anymore, see ya"

Say it, and find the guts to mean it or it will get even worse.

DUMP HIM!! This not what a relationship should be like let alone a friendship, the sooner you end the better! He is an absolute lunatic... this WILL only get worse

This loser has no respect for you.
Asking you to dress for his " accessibility "
To you is outrageous .

People who try to control other people will
Try to isolate them from friends and family
And give ultimatums like he is doing to you.
This behavior also often ends up in abuse.

Kick him to the curb .
Don't talk , text, write, or even acknowledge
He is alive. He is the last thing you need.

You will have no trouble finding someone
Better than him... that is the only good thing about him.