Recently I found out my dad's sex video on his cell phone with another woman. I don't want my mom get hurt to let her know this. And I don't want to lose my family over this matter.

What is the best way for me to wake my dad up and keep this family at the same time.

Is it even possible for stopping him from cheat?

Whenever someone keeps a record of their affair for a son or daughter or spouse to possibly find, I wonder if it's deliberate. Perhaps he wants to be confronted and perhaps he wants to stop, but there's no way to know - he might get angry instead. Your mother does deserve to know (there's a tiny possibility she does). I would bring it out in the open when both parents are home, not on a school or work night, and then I would leave the room for a while. It isn't going to be easy.

If you can't bring yourself to do this, confront your father alone. Tell him this is hurting you and that you feel that your mother has a right to know. He most likely will beg you not to tell, and might get angry for snooping, and you need to be prepared for that. That is why I think it's better to say it in front of both of them and then leave.

I think it would be interesting to find out why you were snooping on your dad's cell phone. How old are you anyway ?

Tick

Actually my sis played with my dad phone and she found out. I'm 22, so I'm taking these as more adult way. She doesn't. She is going through hard time to accept things. I'm thinking to tell him this straight up . I'm thinking even playing the vid front of me and him before started the conversation. Does it sound too cruel to you?

So your sister was playing with your father's phone and found something she shouldn't have. How do you have a copy?

If you can't stay out of your parent's marriage, why don't you just talk to him and tell him what has your sister upset. That might be all that is needed. Keep in mind that you are inserting yourself into his marriage. That really is not your place.

Something to tink about is that the video may not be your dad cheating, but your mother and father having adult fun. You might learn even more about your parents' sex life than you ever wanted to know.

Yes, tell you dad to stop, see what he says, but I don't understand why you want to be part of the cheating ( not telling mom now that you know makes you part of the secret)

What will mom say a year from now when she finds out, and then finds out you knew for a year and did not let her know

Its because if I told her, it would be more like embarrassing for her leting her children find this thing happen. And she would feel shame on that not only my dad cheating.

Here's my problem with this -

(1) The various other posts;
(2) The changed story.

I suspect we have a troll in our midst.