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  • Feb 28, 2011, 11:36 PM
    dschutz
    My husband wants me to make him jealous but all of the typical stuff doesn't work
    My husband wants me to make him jealous but all of the typical stuff doesn't work, he wants me to turn him on by jealousy, what are some extremes that aren't that bad?
  • Feb 28, 2011, 11:56 PM
    Alty

    Extremes that aren't that bad? There's no such thing.

    Have you asked him what he wants? That's the best way to go about this, instead of guessing what he wants, ask.
  • Mar 1, 2011, 04:40 AM
    joypulv
    How do we know what's typical?
    Hire some guys to work on the house? Pool guy? Masseur? Flirt in a coffee shop while he sits alone at a table? Go to a club and dance with everyone but him? Pretend to be gay? Say you are only attracted now to guys 18-21? Are those too typical?
  • Mar 1, 2011, 05:38 AM
    Cat1864

    I would be concened about why he wants you to make him jealous. It sounds to me like a very dangerous game to play for both you and anyone you decide to 'play' with who doesn't know the rules.

    Sorry, but you aren't talking about watching a movie or looking at pictures or even just commenting on other people's looks. It sounds like he wants more than you parading around and getting 'looks'.

    Jealousy is a symptom of insecurities. To truly feel jealous one has to believe that the object, in this case you, would really cheat. Is that a concept you truly want to introduce into your marriage?
  • Mar 1, 2011, 03:16 PM
    0rphan
    It sounds to me that he's giving you permission, to have an affair.. surely not.Could it be that he himself has strayed and want's to ease his conscience,having strayed himself!

    Maybe he has sexual fantasies that he wants to play out, only doesn't know how to approach you.Some couples are very private about these sorts of things,not wanting to admit that they secretly read porn mags or watch abit on the net for fear of their wife/ husband thinking that they are perverted or something like that.

    There is obviously something that is not being fulfilled for him in the bedroom department, in my opinion.

    The only thing that would make him jealous is for you to be seen in an inappropriate position with somebody else,which when in marriage is out of bounds or is he suggesting wife/husband swapping parties?

    I think you have a big problem here, which your husband is trying to make light of.You need to talk openly and honestly about each of your individual needs regarding the sexual side of your marriage and act accordingly if that's agreeable.

    You could also think about the last few months... were there times when perhaps he may have gone out with the lads or wasn't where he said he was etc. etc... better the devil you know...


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