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  • Feb 28, 2011, 05:53 PM
    aliirfan
    Marriage with a hindu girl friend
    Some one year back I met a hindu girl.We became friends as we were in the same profession.Friendship soon changed into intimate relationship.We fell in love for each other.We both wanted to marry each other. Then one day we became emotionally and physically so close to each other that we shared bed but we had used precautions so she did not conceive.I regretted like anything I told my parents about the girl.I told them she is a hindu and loves me and I too love her and want to marry her I did not tell them about the sharing of the bed episode.my parents broke down and told me they will be heart broken if you will marry her and that they will not be happy.They have their own dreams for me. I narrated whole event to the girl, later I again talked to my parents again they rejected.. I am in a fix.. were to go.. my parents want me to marry a muslim girl they have chosen for me.

    Should I listen to my parents and break her heart or should I marry her? Morever the girl is ready to accept islam as her faith and her parents are also willing to marry her to me. Also please tell how can I repent
  • Feb 28, 2011, 06:12 PM
    JudyKayTee

    It is very difficult for me, in the US, to understand your culture.

    How important is the approval of your parents in your life? It may very well boil down to that.

    And the girl - now that she is no longer a virgin, what problems does that cause for her?

    (What is %u2026 posted so many times? What does that mean?)
  • Feb 28, 2011, 06:27 PM
    lloydy02
    If you love her, marry her, your parents will either come round to the idea, or they won't. I think the fact that's she's willing to change faiths should help ease your parents worrys a bit. Im english and my husband is asian and no one questions our love, so I say do what makes you happy. PS Would it break your heart if you couldn't marry her? If it would then marry her.
  • Mar 4, 2011, 11:23 PM
    ashishkumarrana
    Bhai,

    I can understand your emotions but couldn't understand one fact of being too open to share your private times, which you guys shared with each other... Believe me bro, being in love restricts you to not to be too open in public.

    Well in my perception, in such situations, the problems generally arises from girl's end. As you said you are a muslim and your girls is from hindu caste and if your girl's parents have no problems then I must say, 'go for it brother', your parents will definitely accept you in one fine day. From this you'll get your lady love and not only this, you'll derive a full respect from her and will set an example for others to move further with this daring... CHEERS
  • Mar 6, 2011, 03:58 PM
    talaniman

    I would say to marry her, and hope your parents understand someday.

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