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  • Feb 28, 2011, 02:56 PM
    tdfroggies
    Does a man have any right to keep her from having an obortion
    My son and his girlfriend got pregnant and she doesn't want the baby but my son does, is there a way or a fathers right to keep her from an abortion in the state of texas- and we would have the paperwork done to where she gave her rights to him when its born.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 02:58 PM
    AK lawyer

    No, unfortunately it's the woman's choice and hers entirely.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:02 PM
    J_9

    You cannot force a woman to go through all of the changes that occurs in pregnancy if she is not willing to.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:02 PM
    tdfroggies
    Comment on AK lawyer's post
    What if she has a document signed that she just will carry the child and give her rights up at birth?
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:07 PM
    southamerica
    I did a little bit of research into Texas abortion laws to see if I could find anything contradictory to what I'm about to post. If anyone knows more about Texas laws than I do then please correct me.

    Until the baby is born, it is a part of the woman's body and the decision to abort the pregnancy or not is up to her and no one else. (Third trimester abortions are sometimes prohibited)

    If your son wishes, he should have a serious and considerate conversation with his partner about keeping the baby and offering to take care of it after birth. If she still chooses to abort the pregnancy, that is her right.

    From what I understand, carrying a baby to term, giving birth to it, and then giving it away is a very huge and difficult decision.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:11 PM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by southamerica View Post
    I did a little bit of research into Texas abortion laws to see if I could find anything contradictory to what I'm about to post. If anyone knows more about Texas laws than I do then please correct me.
    ...

    It wouldn't be a matter of state law. It's federal judge-made law (Roe v. Wade and its progeny; although Roe does happen to have been a case that arose in Texas, coincidentally.)
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:13 PM
    southamerica
    Comment on AK lawyer's post
    That's what I figured. I just didn't want to lead OP astray if there was a difference in Texas law.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:14 PM
    tdfroggies
    Comment on J_9's post
    I have had 4 kids so I understand the body changes along with the emotion part of it- but I believe it took 2 to make the baby so he should have a right to keep his child a well.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:16 PM
    tdfroggies
    Comment on southamerica's post
    We have talked to her- and again we will sit down and talk to her tonight as well, about all of it. I want to thank you for your help and will look into what he is able to do.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 03:22 PM
    southamerica
    Quote:

    I have had 4 kids so I understand the body changes along with the emotion part of it- but I believe it took 2 to make the baby so he should have a right to keep his child a well.
    @tdfroggies-while many feel the way you do, the law protects to woman's right to choose.

    As a side note: I had the "this is what I will do if I get pregnant" conversation with my boyfriend before we got intimate to make sure he was on the same page as I. Perhaps you could advise your son to do that in the future. I'm sorry about the emotional situation your family is experiencing.
  • Feb 28, 2011, 06:32 PM
    Synnen

    I'd ALSO like to point out that you should be completely honest with her about this:

    1. She can NOT "sign away her rights" at birth. Almost never happens.
    2. She WILL still be responsible for child support, even if she gives custody to your son.
    3. It's STILL her choice--it's still her body. However you feel about the "two to tango" thing, SHE is the only one that has to go through it all. If both parents had to go through pregnancy the Same way, and deal with the body changes and emotional changes and the hormonal changes--that ARE, by the way, FOREVER and not just 9 months long--well, when that day comes, I'll give guys the right to choose whether they can have an abortion. Until that day, though, they just need to choose whether someone would make a good partner parent BEFORE he has sex with her.
    4. This is between her and your son---I don't understand why YOU are involved in talks with her at all. Pressuring her, maybe?
  • Feb 28, 2011, 07:04 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes, to my opinion, sadly he has no say in this at all

    If she wanted the child and he did not, she could have the child and force him to pay child support for years.
    But he has no right to do the same to her.
    Really no equal rights at all at the point till the child is born.

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