The day I met my ex was really love at first sight, we both knew right from the start that we both felt the chemistry, and that we belonged together. But a few months before I met him, something really bad had happened to me, I was abused by my father. I told no one about it, but it, even though I tried to forget About it, it really did affect me, in the way that the first few days, I was not totally comfortable when Iowas with my ex, CZ it kept going through my mind. He¨ noticed something was wrong, and after He asked a  few times what was wrong, I decided to tell him what happened. He was really shocked And all, and told me that I had to tell the police About it. I begged him to keep it a  secret, And so He did. I was really relieved And it felt like 200 pounds dropped of my shoulders, everything between is was great, but my parents weren't really welcoming, but we tried to ignore that. It was going great between me and my ex, I was even the first girl he took to meet his fathers side of the family. But a  week later I had had a really big fight with my parents About him, And I told my ex about it. It wasn't the first fight About him and he¨ knew that, at that point I guess he¨ thought that we weren't going to work in à relationship, he¨ also had à hard time with THE whole thing my father did to me, he¨ noticed that is was going under, THE next evening he¨ broke up with me because of all of this, he¨ couldn't handle it. Even though it broke me, I understood. So after that we spoke to each other a few times, And I know, I really, really love him, And that we just never had a  fair shot. I really want him back, I worked out all of my problems with my parents, and I just KNOW we should have another chance, that we should be together. It just wasn't THE right time.

May I ask how old you two are?
And how long you have been dating?

Id like to give you some advise... First of all did you get sexually abused? And was it your father or step father? Well regardless of thease answers first of all you must report him, you must have no pitty for someone that doesn't care about destroying you in that matter , I can understand your boyfreind for not coping to well with that situation, you must love yourself more then anything or anyone really for if you don't you will never be able to offer true love to anyone,that abuse is going to haunt you for ever if you don't face it and deal with it, and matbe forgive if that horrible person really repentas and desearves it, I believe that you and your botfreind desearve a second chance so look him up convince him of your love and promise to not let anyone or anything in your way again and keep that promise by trying to keep him as far away from your family as you can, although I must say that he you and your family should have some kind of respectful relationship if your family can't offer you that keep him away... Trust me

I can understand why your boyfriend is conflicted. It seems like he cares about you but doesn't know how to support you. I've known people who had to step away from someone they loved because they didn't feel they could do anything further to help that person.

With an abusive father and poor family relations, it seems you have personal issues that you need to be willing to face and resolve. Perhaps your boyfriend felt that way and when you weren't helping yourself he had to step down.

If you love him and he loves you, you have to trust that things will happen in their own time. If you're still living with your family I would guess you're rather young. Don't lose touch with him but be patient and understanding of where his inhibitions are coming from.

I'm sorry to hear you went through a hard experience with your father and I hope that you experience the healing you deserve.

Sounds like you are having a rough time of it but maybe its for the best that he left because he couldn't handle all your issues.

Hurts now, but someone who can deal with you and love you for who you are will come into your life, but for now, seek some help for yourself, so you can heal, and find some peace and happiness with yourself.