My girlfriend is going out and seeing her ex and not even telling me about it. I'm not comfortable with this at all and I'm finding out off my girlfriend friends that she is going to see him. She goes to his house and sees his family this makes me feel sick inside.
I have told her how I feel about her seeing her ex and she simply told me that she isn't going to listen to me and she is going to do what she wants cause she hates getting bossed around by people.
I'm really worried and I don't think I trust her anymore.
Please help me

Well if she's being secretive then she's something to hide.. she might not have done anyting with this ex but she might be having feelings for him, we don't become secretive on our loved ones unless we're feeling guilty about something, we hide things from loved ones because we know what we're doing is wrong, we become defensive when we're caught out on lies. Ticking all the boxes? If she can't keep away from her ex for you then end it, simple as...

She's showing you her true colors.

This isn't going to change anytime soon. She's obviously not over her ex.

Im sure you don't want to be #2. You have already expressed how you feel & she doesn't want do hear any of it.

I would say, its either him or me. Then split.

Doesn't sound like she is the kind of person you need anyway. Sneaky & uncompromising.

Find someone that's ready to treat you right.

How do you know she's seeing her ex? Have you seen them together? Is it more date, or friend outing?


It's possible she's innocent, but it's best to make sure. Confront her. But do it gently. And try to distract yourself. Prepare yourself for the worst! If the worst is true, be aware of what you need to do to deal with it.


Don't use an aggressive tone when discussing it. But let her know you're genuinely concerned. If she does love you, she will have a good, truthful explanation.

Xx Dani G

My apologies, I meant to add to the first section whether you think it's right to trust rumors. Oops.

I don't know your ages, or how long you have been together, or why she would go behind your back (probably fearing your reaction to being friendly with the ex, and his family), but I don't give my heart to a female that has an ex still in there lives, or does things without at least saying something about it, that's dishonest. Nor would I stay with someone I couldn't trust, or communicate with, to resolve any issues.

Especially stay away from those females that cannot understand, or care how you feel. I would be out of there.

I agree.

Exs are exs. If she doesn't care that this is disrespectful to you & refuses to communicate, then remove yourself.

I'll bet you don't want to give your time & love to someone that could care less. She's selfish.

She wants what she wants, when she wants it, & doesn't want to hear anything else.

Not good for you. Never settle for being #2.