The girl of my dreams? We were togther for 4 years, we had a falling out at which point I found out that she cheated on me. Still in love, tried to work it, way to soon. New year, but nothing has really changed. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of, just cause she knows that I 'll be waiting for her. It doesn't matter what I do, can't get her out of myhead. We've resently started hanging out, but I think that only makes things worse. She has issues that are far beyond anything that I think tat I can heilp. What should I do?

Get out of her life and break all contact and be unavailable when she calls.

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The girl of my dreams?

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She is not the girl of your dreams. She is the girl you got comfortable with. The girl of your dreams does not cheat or take advantage of you.

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we were togther for 4 years, we had a falling out at which point i found out that she cheated on me.

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Yeah you can throw that one away. She's not the girl of anyone's dreams including yours.

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Still in love, tried to work it, way to soon. New year, but nothing has really changed.

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You'll never make it work. The relationship is over. She cheated on you. Even if you take her back and she promises never to do it again, which she will because she's a liar, you are still going to always resent her. And you should by the way. You should resent her for what she did to your emotions, your trust, and your value. She doesn't deserve a second chance. A person like her was lucky she even had the chance to begin with. But she blew it.

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I feel like I'm being taken advantage of, just cause she knows that I 'll be waiting for her.

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You are being taken advantage of.

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It doesn't matter what I do, can't get her out of myhead. We've resently started hanging out, but I think that only makes things worse.

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Hanging out with her will not help you get over her. You must get rid of her. If you and I were friends and I stole a $1000.00 from you would we still be friends? The answer is No. But your emotions, you time, and your life are worth more than $1000.00 but your willing to forgive her? Your willing to hang out with her? Why?

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She has issues that are far beyond anything that I think tat I can heilp. What should I do?

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Leave man. Her issues are her problem and the sad reality is the only person that can change anyone's behavior is themselves. Even if she did change, she still cheated on you. She still used you. She doesn't value you or the time you've invested in her.

I wouldn't give her a chance-you don't deserve her taking advantage of you.