I think my man has cheated on me! Please, please help!
My man and I have been together for 7years now.
Now, my man has been living in the city for a month and a bit (our 3boys and I live in a small town about 500kms away) to try and sort us out a life up there with him.
So far, I thought everything was going great. But my instincts are telling me otherwise.
He came back a couple of days ago to celebrate our sons 4th birthday. It was fun and I was so excited to see him. But he has been acting really strangely; he doesn't touch me how he used to, he doesn't cuddle me, he's withdrawn. He kind of acts like a zombie.
On the first night of his arrival, he was being really quiet so I asked him if there was anything he needed to tell me. He replied “I do, but now is not the right time
I pressed on about it, but he wouldn't say anything. My gut started feeling funny, and I knew that I had to listen to it. I asked him openly and honestly is there someone else? He looked straight into my eyes and started crying, while still saying no.
He keeps talking about our spark in the relationship has gone, which is now adding fuel to my suscpions.
I flat out asked him today that if he honours our relationship and my love, he would tell me the truth. He then asked me if I was ready, so I nodded. He grabbed my hand and held it, sobbing and saying I'm sorry
Then I ask who she is and then he starts denying it, saying that he was thinking of leaving me!
Just when I think I'm going to get any truth out of him, he blatantly points the finger back at me and says that I've hurt him in the past etc.
He just finished calling me saying that he HAS NOT slept with anyone else. Now I don't believe him.
I used to cherish our relationship. I never ever thought he could cheat on me. I trusted him completely and now Im thinking I may have been wrong? Please help me!!
I found out after months of denial, that YES he has cheated on me
Right, I asked you guys in feb what should I do as I was positive my man of 7years cheated on me. Last week I found out the truth. After separating from him a month after posting my previous question (due to suspicions) I found on his phone text messages from the other girlfriend, as well as messages from another girl he had been sleeping with! (she is 17, he and I are 26- EWWWW)
He says that at the time I wasn't catering to his needs, I was always insecure and that's why he cheated. I feel so betrayed, broken, hurt, confused, angry and pretty much depressed.
I worked my a** off trying to be a good wife, a good mother, and what do I get? A slap in the effin face.
Now he's claimed that its over with both girl. He claims he was wrong, he's sorry and now he wants his family back together and I love him with all my heart but I don't know if I can forget all this crap! (which then equals suspicion, dihonesty, insecurities, jelousy bla bla) and I know it won't be a healthy relationship.
For f*** sakes, can someone please lend their advice!