Hey, so I've been having sex for about a year now and I love my boyfriend to death and turns me on so much. I don't know why but I can't have an orgasm. Like I've masturbated and when I do I always have an orgasm. And if he fingers me or goes down on me I always have an orgasm but never during sex, and I don't know why. Like all he wants to do is make me have one and I never do. We've tried just about every thing. Can any one help me :(

This is normal. Only a small percentage of women actually orgasm during sex.

Relaxation is the key, not focusing on the orgasm. Works miracles.

I have heard that if you don't masterbait and don't have ne sexual contact for a time ull crave it and orgasm ezier... that's what I've heard I don't know due to fact I'm a guy.

If you want an orgasm during sex don't think about it. Think about a sexual fantacy you might have. Put your mind somewhere else but you body in full penetration. My wife is one of those special women that orgasm the moment I enter her well almost the moment I enter but she experiences quite a few orgasm to my one, its not fair in some ways. Just relax and put your mind at ease.

First please disregard what the graywizard has posted, he knows nothing about it most obvioiusly and I am sorry he gave the one poster a bad comment since he was giving the proper advice.

If during foreplay you have an orgasm then often it is easier, but a lot has to do with position during sex, try various positions, plus let your mind enjoy and not think about it also.

And tell your partner what is feeling good and what feels better,

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Originally Posted by Feb223

hey, so i've been having sex for about a year now and i love my boyfriend to death and turns me on so much. i dont know why but i can't have an orgasm. like ive masturbated and when i do i always have an orgasm. and if he fingers me or goes down on me i always have an orgasm but never during sex, and i dont know why. like all he wants to do is make me have one and i never do. we've tried just about every thing. can any one help me :(

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First off you got to get your mind right! If he is big u need to tell him to take it really nice and slow! U need to wet yourself down with a lubricate such as ky or vagisil. Concentrate on him and the motion in which u guys are going don't be afraid to tell him what to do, suggestions maybe he needs to do it in a certain position, maybe play with your clitoris during intercourse! Keep try you'll get there!

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