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  • Feb 23, 2011, 06:35 PM
    MiiHelp
    I slept with a guy who has a girlfriend...
    I understand that I'm probably going to get "you're a slut" and "what a *****" comments, but I'm honestly asking for honest opinions. Thanks guys.

    I recently started talking again to this guy that I've known since I was 16 (I'm 21, he's 22). We have always liked each other, but we never did anything really about it. We started talking again about a month ago, and one thing led to another and we started talking about sex... and we hung out on this past weekend and we slept with each other.

    I know it sounds horrible (because it is) but he has a girlfriend. They've been together for almost 3 years, and she lives 3 hours away from us. I've never met her. After we had sex, he told me that I was the only girl he's slept with since he's gotten with his girlfriend. I just smiled and asked him if it was worth it and he had a huge smile and said yes. After I tried to talk about something else. As he was dropping me off at my house, he told me that he wanted to talk about what just had happened.

    He started telling me how he still wanted to be friends and wanted us to hang out and that he didn't want things to be awkward and I agreed. Then he started to say how weird it was that he didn't regret it and how he didn't have any type of remorse. Then he started saying that it was probably because he wanted me for so long that it was just the tension building up towards the years.

    We then started talking about how much we liked each other and why he never did anything about it. He started saying it was because he thought I never would have paid attention to him and the story goes on. At the end, I was going to get out of his car when he asked for a hug, and then he gave me a kiss. We said our goodbyes, and he told me to hit him up sometime. I shortened the conversation we had, but that was basically it.

    We haven't talked since the weekend, and I guess what I'm trying to ask is what do you guys think of the situation? Was it just a one time thing, or do you think it'll continue. I just thought it was strange that he wanted to talk about it afterwards... opinions please. I Guess I'm just kind of eh about all this 'cause I've only slept with one guy (he was the 2nd) and I've never been in this type of situation. I'm sorry if I offended anyone with this story
  • Feb 23, 2011, 06:51 PM
    clafairey

    People like this guy make me so angry. Not satisfied with what they have and have had for however many years and so think it's OK to do such a thing as this with someone else. I'm sorry but do you have no respect for yourself? Do you not think you deserve better than to be used by someone who is already committed to another? If I were you I would stay well away from this guy, he is a coward and a user and doesn't deserve to have a woman, let alone 2.
  • Feb 23, 2011, 06:59 PM
    vanheart
    Not sure what your question is really.

    Will it continue? I hope not.

    Its wrong. Find an unattached guy.

    Don't instigate. Or be his friend. Hes lame.

    What, do want to steal a cheater away from his girlfriend?

    If so, you are equally lame.


  • Feb 23, 2011, 10:32 PM
    talaniman

    What's done is done, it happened. But if the guy ain't dumping his girl, then you are just a booty call on the side, and before you get your hopes up, and get carried away by that after sex glow, consider, he cheated on his g/f of 3 years, with you, so what the freak makes you think this is something special? What makes you think that he won't cheat on you too?

    Quick sex is great, Lust is intense, but don't confuse it for love just because its intense. Especially with this cheater.

    Get a guy who is loyal, and don't start it off with sex, build something and enjoy the love because lust fades fast.And for gosh sakes, take better care of you and your heart.
  • Apr 11, 2011, 08:25 PM
    dorkface
    Girl we have like the same situation except I ddnt sleep with the guy at least yet.. I don't understand why he is still with her because by the end of the day he's looking for me and kissing me.We all go to the same c0ollege and I too don't know what to do..
  • Apr 11, 2011, 11:47 PM
    amicon

    You chalk it up to experiencce,you were played by a cheating jerk.

    Have nothing more to do with him.

    (At dorkface:leave it well alone!! )
  • Sep 10, 2012, 10:24 PM
    amanda-panda4
    I am in the same situation I have liked this guy since I was a freshman in high school now I am a senior well we hung out and sleep together but I knew he had a girlfriend I know I made a mistake because I still loved my ex but he found out now he's calling me easy what do I do to make everything better?

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