Why does my boyfriend never show affection or want to have sex with me
We've beem together 3 years and lived together 2. he comes from a unaffectionate family and only seems to want sex after he's been drinking. He said he use to always want sex when he was younger (now 40). He said he lost interest in mid 30's. We split up last year and he went out with a few people, he admitted to having sex with them (they were in their 20's and early 30's). He's my best friend and I love him dearly but don't understand what is going on. I've never had this happen with any other man. He likes me to go down on him a lot but has only me a few times, he prefers oral to sex. I love to do that for him but I want satisfaction also. He said he's tired or not in the mood. When we argue, he'll say I've gained weight or I get on his nerves and this is why he never wants sex. He's use to dating younger women, I'm his age. He tells me he loves me and I'm a good woman and he knows he'll never find anyone like me again. What is the problem?