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  • Jan 18, 2007, 04:46 PM
    BeYond ConfuSed -_-
    More Help! Pleaseee
    Okay I need as many answers as I can get.

    Well you're most probably tired of me lol. But this time it's kind of serious. My girlfriend is acting so awkward with me and I'm not liking it at all. Were in love I know it, well I'm in love with HER but lately there's this one stupid rule that she can't follow.it's that she has certain people over without telling me, and they give her negative thoughts. It's nothing big, not like she cheated or anything but it bothers me! And when I get mad at her she gets mad at me! I don't know what to do when she does it the next time. This is a simple question guys, please answer?
  • Jan 18, 2007, 05:09 PM
    talaniman
    What is the rule that she can't follow that has you in a hissy fit?
  • Jan 18, 2007, 06:28 PM
    Skell
    Are you saying she has to ask your permission to have friends over! And I gather this is because you don't like these friends too much?

    Going on your other post I think this relationship is coming to end. Sorry to say that!

    Perhaps you need to sit down and ask her if she wants to be with you because you are getting mixed signals.

    She may be 'breaking your rules' in an attempt to push you away and make you do the dumping.

    In any sense this relationship doesn't seem to be working and it might be time for some honest and frank communication.

    You have to be ready for an answer you don't want to hear though.

    And when you hear it please accept it like a man and listen. If she says she wants out, no begging , pleading, crying or whatever will bring her back.

    You need to accept it and walk away and begin the next part of your life.

    I might be getting ahead of myself but her beaviour and yours for that matter reminds me of someone, and he too was blind to the relationship ending because he though the love would never end!

    Well sometimes it does!

    Good luck!
  • Jan 18, 2007, 07:04 PM
    JoeCanada76
    First: To demand certain rules of her. What right do you have to do that?

    Secondly: She does not have to abide by your rules and if you fight her on it. You are ready have so it is too late.

    Third: It is over. Whether you like to face it or not. It is. Time to move on.

    Joe
  • Jan 18, 2007, 07:37 PM
    s_cianci
    Imposing "rules" on her is never a good thing and will only prove to be counterproductive. But if she has friends who are badmouthing you to her, that's not good either and you shouldn't tolerate such behavior. To that end you have every right to ask her not to tolerate it either. If she won't take a stand with these friends of hers, that could be a sign that it's time for this to end and you move on.
  • Jan 19, 2007, 11:30 PM
    chuff
    Much like your name I too am beyond confused.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BeYond ConfuSed
    okay i need as many answers as i can get.

    Well you're most probably tired of me lol.

    God, if they've let me stay here I think your in the clear. :D

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BeYond ConfuSed
    but this time it's kinda serious. my girlfriend is acting so awkward with me and i'm not liking it at all. were in love i know it, well i'm in love with HER

    That a boy. You can only speak for yourself not for the other party. So many people are blind to this and I'm going to give your credit for recognizing that.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BeYond ConfuSed
    but lately there's this one stupid rule that she can't follow.it's that she has certain people over without telling me, and they give her negative thoughts.

    So you have a rule that she can't have anybody come over to HER house that you don't approve? The word controlling comes to mind.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BeYond ConfuSed
    it's nothing big, not like she cheated or anything but it bothers me! and when i get mad at her she gets mad at me!

    You put the excalmation point at the end of that sentence like your actually surprised that she would get mad at your for getting mad at her when you tell her who she can have at HER house. How dare she defend herself!

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BeYond ConfuSed
    i don't know what to do when she does it the next time.

    How about nothing.

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