This is something that I have seen here recently. There are a lot of women who say that you are dating, but want to date other people. Now I don't know if I am just out of the loop here but isn't that more along the lines of seeing someone rather than dating someone? Isn't dating someone more along the lines of an exclusive relationship? Anyone out there willing to give me some insight?

Confused in the Mountains.
Dave

Dave I'd agree with you that dating someone vs seeing someone seems more exclusive, but I think you're getting hung up on the wording of it. A good earnest conversation with a person you're seeing or dating (or whatever you want to call it) is best. Setting the boundaries of what you expect or don't expect each other should clarify it more so than the term you call it.

Not in today's society, dating is just that dating, betty today, Sue tomorrow, and Joan next week. ( and then hopeing you wife don't find out about them)

But many of esp the younger generation, see dating as a very light relastionship until they agree it is more serious.

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Originally Posted by Dave_in_CO

This is something that I have seen here recently. There are alot of women who say that you are dating, but want to date other people. Now I don't know if I am just out of the loop here but isn't that more along the lines of seeing someone rather than dating someone? Isn't dating someone more along the lines of an exclusive relationship? Anyone out there willing to give me some insight?

Confused in the Mountains.
Dave

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Lol Believe me I wish I knew ! I don't know where/when this defination of the status of a relationship came from. In my experience, (sigh) I have just had to explain that everyone seems to have a different take on what seeing vs. dating someone meens. So.. . Where would you like our relationship to go? B/c this is what I would like... Hope that helps :)

Maybe back in middle school and high school these definitions were more clear. You'd pass a note to a girl which said, "Will you be my gf? Check Y for yes, or N for no...please?"

Haha.

College and beyond is different and you kind of just fly by the seat of your pants and go with the flow. Assume no commitment unless you actually sit down and MUTUALLY AGREE. That's the fun part with being older- neither party assumes commitment and hence, you don't get that highschool/college drama that women mostly start although guys do it too.

Date MANY women. Find who fits you best. Find out what you like and what you don't like. This is why it's so fun. Don't get caught up on titles or whatever... just enjoy each person for who they are. If you like her enough and she likes you, committmenrt and a title will come... if that's what you want.

But you got to be cool about it.

Well I was browsing YouTube and I came across this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZiqKW9Gzzo

The 3 people there have a discussion on what the different between seeing and dating someone is. It's a little bit long, but it's pretty informative and kind of just summarizes the confusion between the two terms and how its so loosely used between people. Check it out!