Ex girlfriend says she is confused and said she needed space.
I have been dating this girl for about 2 months after being just friends for 9 months. As friends we spent a lot of time with each other, I was teaching her how to drive and she was helping me with my separation from a 10 year marriage. We had developed an attraction to each other and spent every weekend together. When we first met, her ex boyfriend just dumped her and she was trying to get him back. I asked her if she was over him, and she told me she no. But, we eventually started dating each other anyway. I know, 2 months is a short time, but we really started to care about each other very much. Everything was great until 4 weeks ago he called her and said he'd changed and wants her back. Then one day after a great day trip with her and her daughter, her ex showed up at her house (by the way he is the landlord) and waited for me to leave at midnight and had a conversation with her. So, the next day, she told me she still had feelings for her ex and wanted to try one more time so she can be sure and not wonder what could have been 5 years down the road (her words) and then said she needed space to think. She had told me before that she had known her ex for many years, but that they had broken up many times. She thought she was over him, but I guess not. So, after seeing her ex at her home, the next day, she told me she was very confused and upset, that she didn't want me to continue giving her attention when she knew she still had feelings for him. She says she still loves me, but that she can't watch me hang on until she figures out if what she wants. She told me that she would always have feelings for her ex. She had pushed me completely out of her life, but still says she doesn't know if she is going back with him or not. She says she selfish and doesn't want to let me go. I am so confused about this. I want her back. What should I do? I am trying to move on, but it's so hard. Do I give her time or just forget her?
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I'm stunned only because, if there were 40 hours in a week, I was with her for 38 of them for the last 9 months. To me, it would stand to reason that all of the activities and fun we were having would be missed. I haven't spoken to her in a week and I can't seem to fill the space of all of the things we used to do together. Now if I miss it, wouldn't she? She calls me from an unknown number and asks if she can come and give back the money she borrowed and in turn wants me to fix something I broke. If you ask for space why are you calling me for this? What do you think?