Boyfriend and his strip club trips
I am 24 and my boyfriend is 34. The age difference is def not a problem in our relationship. Actually we have a great relationship except for one thing - his going to the strip club.
When I started dating this man, I knew that he went to the strip club a lot (like 2-3 times a week) I thought that I could deal with it, but I explained to him that I really do not like him going to strip clubs. I am not one for trying to change people when you start dating them (you should love them for who they are) Background - he started going to strip clubs later than most men in life. He has cut back a lot on going - like once every 3-4 months, but I'm not sure that I can deal with it anymore! The excuses he uses for going are: going to hang out with friends, just got a bug up my butt and felt like going, haven't been in a while, going to talk to the "girls (yes, he actually became friends with some of the girls). I've said to him that I don't mind him being friends with these girls, but does he need to talk to them at "work". If they were really his friends, they would be willing to go out to the bar with him and I or going out to eat or something like that.
It wouldn't bother me if he went to the strip club for a friend’s birthday or bachelor party. But not this "just because" stuff. The only two times that I have ever gone to a male review was for my best friends and my sisters bachelorette parties - both times I did not tip once. The major reasons that I don't like him going are: he spends to much money at the clubs, it feels really disrespectful to me, I don't like the fact that he getting boobs shoved in his face, and I don't trust some of the girls (especially when he told me that a few of them wanted to date him until they found out he had a new girlfriend - me) I do trust him not to cheat of me. I just don't trust the girls. He already gets a lot of crap from his friends (even though they are extremely good friends of mine too) because he cut back on going because of me.
I'm really not sure what to do and would like any advice/input that people are willing to give me. We are planning on moving in together in about 4-5 months and I would like to get this little "issue" dealt with before then.
Thanks
Shell Lee
Boyfriend And His Strip Club Trips
I asked this question in another forum, but I am also going to try here. I am 24 and my boyfriend is 34. The age difference is def not a problem in our relationship. Actually we have a great relationship except for one thing - his going to the strip club.
When I started dating this man, I knew that he went to the strip club a lot (like 2-3 times a week) I thought that I could deal with it, but I explained to him that I really do not like him going to strip clubs. I am not one for trying to change people when you start dating them (you should love them for who they are) Background - he started going to strip clubs later than most men in life. He has cut back a lot on going - like once every 3-4 months, but I'm not sure that I can deal with it anymore! The excuses he uses for going are: going to hang out with friends, just got a bug up my butt and felt like going, haven't been in a while, going to talk to the "girls (yes, he actually became friends with some of the girls). I've said to him that I don't mind him being friends with these girls, but does he need to talk to them at "work". If they were really his friends, they would be willing to go out to the bar with him and I or going out to eat or something like that.
It wouldn't bother me if he went to the strip club for a friend’s birthday or bachelor party. But not this "just because" stuff. The only two times that I have ever gone to a male review was for my best friends and my sisters bachelorette parties - both times I did not tip once. The major reasons that I don't like him going are: he spends to much money at the clubs, it feels really disrespectful to me, I don't like the fact that he getting boobs shoved in his face, and I don't trust some of the girls (especially when he told me that a few of them wanted to date him until they found out he had a new girlfriend - me) I do trust him not to cheat of me. I just don't trust the girls. He already gets a lot of crap from his friends (even though they are extremely good friends of mine too) because he cut back on going because of me.
I'm really not sure what to do and would like any advice/input that people are willing to give me. We are planning on moving in together in about 4-5 months and I would like to get this little "issue" dealt with before then.
Thanks
Shell Lee