I have two daughters ages 13 and 11. They have different mothers. They both want to come live with me. They have the same rules here as they have with their mothers. I might even be more strict. I never bad talk either of their moms. However, its hard because I feel like I have no rights. Especially with my younger daughter. Every other weekend is supposed to be visitation. My daughter really looks forward to these special weekends. When I call to schedule a time to pick my daughter up, her mom usually tells me,"She ain't going anywhere" I've delt with this for a long time. I can only pick my daughter up if its convenient for the mother. If she's in a bad mood we can forget it. I try not to stir up things too bad because my daughter has to live there. My daughters mom often punishes her for just asking if she can call me. Do you know how upsetting that is. Only because of my faith in the Lord am I able to deal with this. Honestly, before giving my life to God, I used to react differently. We used to end up arguing and cursing and my daughter would sometimes see. That is not fair to my little girl. I give thanks to God for giving me the strength and humility to walk away from the ignorance. No loving father should have to go through this insanity. What can I do so that me and my daughters can spend quality time with each other. My baby girls are my life and I love them more than words can express. There r so many dead beat dads out there. I've seen the "baby mommas" of thoses dead beats chase them down to give their kids to them and to continue to hound the dads to "come pick up their kids" But when a father really loves and cares for their children and want to be in their lives, they are put through a living hell. Would someone please help me!!

Take the mothers back to Court for not respecting earlier Court Orders regarding visitation - they are in contempt. It's nice that you have great faith but please keep in mind that not everyone who posts here is Christian.

I am assuming you pay support.

Were you married to the two mothers?

I was married to my youngest daughters mom. Yes I have the support deducted straight from my paycheck.

Take the mothers to Court for violation of Court directives.

There is no other way.

You posted a very heartfelt plea all very nice about faith etc. But this is the Family LAW forum. We deal with the law here. And The only thing you said in your originally post that might have to do with the law was; "Every other weekend is supposed to be visitation.". But you didn't say whether a court has ordered that visitation.

Nor did you say anything about what you have done to enforce the visitation.

The bottom line here is if you have a court order for visitation, then you shouldn't be calling to schedule a time. You should have it specified in the court order that you have your daughter from, let's say, 8PM on Friday until 8PM on Sunday. You then show up at the house at 8PM on Friday when its your weekend. If the child is not there you call someone to witness that you were there and the child was not made available. If the child is there but the mother refuses to let her go with you, you call the police, show them your visitation order and tell them the mother is refusing to let the child come with you.

If the police won't get involved, then you go back to court and have the mother cited for contempt of court.

The children are probably too young for a court to listen to their preferences about who to live with, but enough contempt citations and the court may decide to switch custody.

First why are you "calling" each time before the weekend, you need to have a set time and place to pick her up, each and everyother week, When you call, it only gives mom a chance to say no.

Next if she does not let you have the child, take her back to court and often until it is no longer a issue