I have been with my partner for 5 years, since we were 15. I am now 20 with 2 children. All we do is argue and I don't actually think we like each other very much. We recently got back together after 5 months and he found a new girlfriend. I don't think I can deal with this so I constantly cause arguments. He doesn't respect me and calls me names all the time. And on some cases been violent to me. I know what your thinking why are we still together? Well we have 2 children and we do love each other, but things are so hard at the moment and I don't know if ill be happier on my own.

You just said you don't really think you like each other very much and also that you love each other? Is it that you don't think you'll will be happier on your own or your afraid of being alone? You suvived 5months alone, how did you feel in them 5 months?

If you don't like each other, You both verbally bash each other, he apparently gets physically violent, you can't get over him finding another women when you were broke up---YET you still love each other.

Do your children a favor perhaps you can just stop loving each other sooo much. Them having to witness the verbal bashing and phycial violence is just NOT RIGHT, or are you wanting them to learn that this is what LOVE is all about, so when they get to be adults they can continue the cycle!

As a Mother I would hope that you want to raise your children is a better environment. As to the question of will you be happier on your own, geez anything would be happier then that crap every day!!

Its time to learn how to strive for a life that you are responsible for your own happiness. Also for the happiness and safety of your children. Don't you think its time to move on.

Keep yourself busy, start taking some classes, or get into volunteering for different organizations. Helping others can give us the strength to look at our own lives and make the changes that need to be done.

Take care

I do understand what you are saying. I think the my main thing is I couldn't imagine been with any body else and I wouldn't like to introduce my children to anybody. We do love each other that's why we got back together and he promissed me things would change. I do want the best things for my children and I suppose I thought a family unit would be the best option

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we recently got back together after 5 months and he found a new gf.

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Is he still seeing another woman at the same time he is supposed to be romantically involved with you? If so, walk away.

You can love someone without liking him/her. You do not have to be a couple to raise your children.

If he has been violent (I will take it that you mean physically), then you should not be together. It is an extremely bad environment to raise children in as is one where the parents are fighting instead of communicating. Do you think your children deserve to see mommy and daddy at each other's throats? Do you think they deserve to be innocent bystanders or targets of misplaced anger and frustration?

IF the two of you are serious about working through your issues and being together, then you should separate and start counseling. Don't get back together until you can control yourselves.

Actually, parenting classes and couple's counseling whether you are a couple or not to help both of you learn to communicate and work together as parents would be a good idea.

You two kids better get your head wrapped around the fact that you are both parents, and have the responsibility of raising two kids together, whether you love each other, or not. Whether you can have a family unit, or not. Whether you get along together, or not. All of that is irrelevant to the fact you have to work together whether you like it or not, no matter what kind of lives you choose to lead.

Together or apart. That means you better learn to talk, not argue over emotional BS!! Kids don't need that.

Thank you for all your help. I knew any way what I had to do I just have to be strong and get through it now.