My girlfriend just started stripping - she never told me, I found out for myself
So there is no end to how wrong it is that this went down. I'll go into details if anyone wants to know.
My question is this - Since I've been through so much bull**** already & I need her rent money - should I use this as an opportunity?
I'm moving away to college in 6 months anyway. In other words, what's done is done - it's not going to get better with us, so should I use this as an opportunity to train my slutty girlfriend to be sexier and capitalize on free lap dances?
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In other words - I should take advantage of it? Don't get me wrong - at one point, even now I am head over heels for this girl. However, before this even happened there were at least 3 major occasions that we should have agreed to end it.
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I don't know what it is. All I know is that it hurts either way. I can acknowledge that I shouldn't be with her anymore, but I'm not ready to be alone. The timing is really bad. I need rent money because I'm fiscally responsibly obligated. I have so many things I need to accomplish before I leave for school in 6 months that I can't handle any more obstacles like figuring out how to not dig myself deeper into debt & not having someone to embrace when I'm lonely.
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I agree with you that I need to be proud of the woman I'm with. She wasn't always like this - she used to be very conservative and trustworthy. It all got screwed up. I am proud of her for many reasons - she does have a great body and she would make a perfect stripper, and she is also very likeable by all - however, I'm concerned about how it will evolve for the worse. On the other hand, I'd prefer to be proud of a woman for other reasons that she can no longer fulfill like having some long term direction and goals. She doesn't know what she is going to do with her life and in the meantime she is trying to clear $7,000 in credit card debt at 20% interest. Thanks for responding - I need someone to discuss this with that is unbiased. I'm not telling anyone that I know because I'm ashamed and would never want them to see her like that.
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I found out by finding a picture of her in a g-string with another girl wearing the same on her computer. I confronted her about this. She confessed that she took the job 24 days ago and that she just figured she could pay the rent and keep it a secret. If I could turn back time I would never approve of her doing this and wouldn't want the dirty rent money --- I found out after the fact so I am trying to figure out how I should react. She sometimes makes over $300 per night and works 3 nights a week. What do I do? Leaving her doesn't solve anything and I know she won't quit now that she knows how easy the money is! Help!
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She means a lot to me - but I know that I have to look out for myself and that she won't have any clear direction for quite some time. I either have to support her and pay all of her bills - or let her figure out how to do it. Times are tough and I work really hard to support only myself - I can't afford to provide for her while she parties all the time. She needs things like clothes, booze, junk food so even if I did pay for her to live with me she would still have to figure out how to pay her credit card, student loan and phone bill. I can't do all that and she's not aggressive to get a job that pays $20 an hour so she settled with easy money.
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The moral thing WOULD be to just leave her, you clearly don't love her, your on this looking for approval to use her for rent but I really doubt your going to get it, be the better person man and leave her, that's how you should react! If your that desperate for the money then strip off yourself (joke)
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You will be leaving with diginty! Free of a guilty consicence, free of a fake and misery for the next 6 months, and strippers are human beings so you can't possibly say they make bad girlfriends, there are good and bad people all around us in all sorts of professions. Nobody on this is going to tell you to use someone for money man because its wrong,
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Love yes - respect, not so much.
My girlfriend started stripping about a month ago. Should I encourage it?
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I'm not too thrilled about the fact that anyone can see my girlfriend naked, but should I be supportive since this is what she wants to do?