Okay so me and this guy met at a party, and we flirted a little and stuff and the day after the party he IM'ed me on myspace, and we had a really good conversation, so me and him would talk everyday, for hours sometimes, and I don't know how he felt about me but I was really starting to like him, though he is a few years older, I really liked him, then my best friend found out I was friends with him and desided she wanted to be friends with him too, so one day we were talking like usual and he asked me if I wanted to see what she was saying to him and I was like sure, so he showed me and she was being really sexual with him, and it really made me mad because she knen I liked him, so I stopped talking to her for a really long time, me and him still talked every now and then, but then we kind of just stopped talking I kind of feel like its my fault because I'm really shy and I'm afraid he thought I didn't like him or something, but then again I kind of blame my friend, but I don't know now I can't stop thinking about him and I'm kind of depressed about it, I just wish I knew what I did wrong?

Why would you think you did anything wrong?
Tell him you always enjoyed talking with him and ask how he's doing, and tell him a sentence or two about how you are doing.
Sure, maybe he fell for the sexual stuff from your fairweather friend. But that fades pretty quickly most of the time. And it was probably awkward for both of you, casting a shadow over your budding relationship.
Continue to be the person you are and don't worry about the failures here and there; we all have them.

Wow it was pretty shady of him to show you what your friend was writing to him, that's what I call **** stirring, I'm not on your friends side either she was out of order going behind your back knowing you liked him, to be honest I don't think you can trust either of them... but.. if you do really like him then take joypulv's advice and just start up a conversation with him but remember you've already lost a friend to him (maybe not a very good friend) but still someone you called a friend so be careful.

Rachel, how old are both of you? A few years doesn't make much difference between a 22 year old and 30 year old, but if you are younger a few years can be a big problem.

Is your relationship, only through text, I'm, and such or do you actually meet up with him?

I can't put all of this on the friend because I don't know who started the sexual talk. Did he show you what he said to her? Have you since actually talked to her about her relationship with him?

I am not certain, but it seems to me that his feelings for you might not be what you feel for him. He may see you as more of a friend than anything else.

Frankly, you can ask him what he thinks about you, but I think I would be looking for someone who handles his own business instead of trying to cause problems between friends.

You didn't do anything wrong. You were yourself and that is the only thing you can do. You can't control other people.

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I tried Cat.

I , for some reason , am getting the impression that he had ulterior motives in showing the texts
It would be rather interesting to get a couple of women in a "contest" to see who would be the most explicit and how far would they would be willing to take this if it got going.

It also gets him into bringing up the subject of sex without saying anything.

I suggest you give any further contact with him a good deal of thought.
There seem to be indications of different agendas here , at least it appears that way to me.

Its not your fault, but choose your friends more carefully, and keep everyone out of your personal business. A painful life lesson learned.