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  • Feb 16, 2011, 10:18 PM
    ItsMe907
    I think I've fallen for my straight friend
    I developed these feelings when I was 14 and 2 years later I'm still crazy about her.
    We hangout like once a month or maybe more and whenever we do I just can't help looking
    At her and when she smiles I melt. For some reason I get a feeling she might like me too because she
    Is ALWAYS playfully making fun of me and we always have playful small arguments and I don't think she does that with any of her other friends, she just seems to love making fun of me and I've heard that it's a form of flirting? and When we watch a movie at
    A theater she sometimes wants to hold my hand and lace them, she sometimes stands in my personal space, sometimes sends me flirty texts.
    What do you think? Do you think she might be into me? Im sorry if I sound dumb, I don't know how else I can put it into words.
  • Feb 16, 2011, 11:08 PM
    martinizing2

    It sounds like you may be attracted to each other.

    And since she is your straight friend you must be her gay friend.

    Is she aware of your sexuality?

    Are you aware of your sexuality as a certainty?

    If you enjoy spending time together and close company is pleasurable , go... be happy.

    Also be very very honest and communicate a lot. The more you know the better off you will be.
  • Feb 16, 2011, 11:55 PM
    ItsMe907
    Comment on martinizing2's post
    She thinks I'm very straight and truth is.. I don't know what's my sexuality, I feel like I'm too young to figure it out.
    And I don't think ill tell her anytime soon. She's very comfusing, on her blog she sometimes post pics of girls kissing or doing something heavy.. Maybe that's a sign?
  • Feb 17, 2011, 12:19 AM
    martinizing2

    Quote:

    She thinks I'm very straight and truth is.. I don't know what's my sexuality, I feel like I'm too young to figure it out.
    I am in total agreement with that statement.

    When you referred to her as a straight friend in the title, it seemed not to fit the story.

    I think what you are describing sounds fairly normal for 16 yr old girls.
    But that is an assumption only, since I have never been a 16 yo girl.
    Or any other age.:cool:


    Quote:

    she sometimes post pics of girls kissing or doing something heavy.. Maybe that's a sign?
    Or maybe it's not.:rolleyes:

    If you get along well and are having fun spending time together, do that.

    You will figure the details out as you learn and mature over the next few years.
    No need to rush into it without full knowledge of who you are or are not.

    I think you can stop worrying about this and return to the mall and do what you do there.:D
  • Feb 17, 2011, 12:34 AM
    Alty

    I'm going to give you a straight girls point of view.

    When I was 16 my boyfriend and I would hold hands, would joke around, but it was all in friendship. I never even had the desire to experiment, I am straight to the core.

    It sounds like your friend is just comfortable with you, you're her best friends.

    A different spin on things is this. If you're not sure of your sexuality, it could also be that she's not sure of hers.

    This is a tough question, because you're not sure if you're gay, straight or bi. She may be in the same boat. Talking to her is an option, but what would you talk about seeing as you yourself don't know who you're attracted to, or what your sexual orientation is.

    I'd play it safe, remain friends, and when you figure things out, then talk to her, if you still feel you may be attracted to her at that time.

    Boy I'm glad I'm not a teen anymore. ;)
  • Feb 17, 2011, 01:47 AM
    joypulv
    Just to add to the confusion, there are people who claim that they are not gay, straight, or bi etched in stone forever; that they feel free to change with age and the person they are attracted to (which doesn't etch thim in stone as bi). There are also people who refuse to even state a gender, who feel themselves to be female at times and male at times.
    Teens are usually intensely interested in each other's looks and how their bodies are developing, and there can be an attraction as part of it. One minute you were a kid hugging your friend without thought of sex, and the next minute you are aware of sex, and you are left with the task of sorting out your feelings.

    You could talk about your feelings in general about yourself, not about her, and just let the conversation develop. Whatever you are confused about, chances are your friends are too.

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