My child father thinks it is OK for him to come in and out of her life when he wants to. My boyfriend of two years don't like that and say he will leave if I let him back ib the door. I don't want him back in my child life but what can I do to keep him away.

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Originally Posted by camilla74

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Nothing really. He is the child's father and therefore has the right to be in his child's life.

Your boyfriend does not. He, your boyfriend, has no rights at all unless he marries you and then adopts the child (which in turn cannot normally be done without your ex's permission).

Thanks so much for that

Does the father pay child support?
Is there a custody agreement?
Does he have formal visitation rights?

All these things will affect the answer to your question. If the father is the legal father (were you married when your daughter was born?), he certainly has some rights. But what those rights are can vary. And he can't just show up at your house whenever he likes.

Maybe you could clarify what agreements you have, legal and otherwise and you'll get more detailed answers.

Your boyfriend has no legal standing either way.

Well he does pay child support now. He has been paying for about 4 months now that has always been off in on. There is a custody ageemaent but he isn't going by it. Like I said he come when he want to are he doesn't have a girlfriend that's when he wants to see her. I don't like him to do my baby like that. He will want to see her maybe once every 2 months, That's NOT RIGHT . And its hurts my child. I did get my number changed so him and his girlfriend wouldn't be play on my phone, so he can't call me now. He willnt have my new number any more. So what can I do at that point.

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Well he does pay child support now. He has been paying for about 4 months now that has always been off in on. There is a custody ageemaent but he isn't going by it. Like I said he come when he want to are he doesn't have a girlfriend that's when he wants to see her. I don't like him to do my baby like that. He will want to see her maybe once every 2 months, That's NOT RIGHT . And its hurts my child. I did get my number changed so him and his girlfriend wouldn't be play on my phone, so he can't call me now. He willnt have my new number any more. So what can I do at that point. (end comment)




You could let him have the child and you and your boyfriend can live happily ever after.

If that sounds unrealistic to you then you need to change your ways. The courts don't like it when the mothers start playing games with the visitation. And right now your boyfriend is being a pig in trying to keep the father away from HIS child.

If you continue this path of hide and seek with the child the courts will willingly take the child from you. Keep that in mind the next time you try to interfere with contact between the father and the child.

The father can't simply come and go. You can require he calls first and makes an appointment. But if you do you have to be reasonable about allowing such appointments.

Other than that you really can't keep him from the child since he has a father's rights.