OK so I was asked out to dinner from a guy Ive been casually seeing for sometime now. We would hang out a lot in the first few months then we lost contact and recently started seeing each other again (about a month now). So last Friday he asked if I want to go to dinner on Valentines Day when he gets back into town... I agreed. Today he confirms again, I got ready and he cancels on me saying that his water heater broke and he had to go out and get a new one and is dealing with his landlady, he apologized and wanted to go tomorrow instead. That was about 30 minutes ago and I have yet to reply to his text. Is this bogus perhaps has another date? Or should I believe him? I don't want to make it a big deal since we are quite casual but at the same time I don't want to look like Im chopped liver! What should I say? How would you react to this?

OK so I was asked out to dinner from a guy Ive been casually seeing for sometime now. We would hang out a lot in the first few months then we lost contact and recently started seeing each other again (about a month now). So last Friday he asked if I want to go to dinner on Valentines Day when he gets back into town... I agreed. Today he confirms again, I got ready and he cancels on me saying that his water heater broke and he had to go out and get a new one and is dealing with his landlady, he apologized and wanted to go tomorrow instead. That was about 30 minutes ago and I have yet to reply to his text. Is this bogus perhaps has another date? Or should I believe him? I don't want to make it a big deal since we are quite casual but at the same time I don't want to look like Im chopped liver! What should I say? How would you react to this?

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Originally Posted by goodkarma_1

Or should I believe him? I dont want to make it a big deal since we are quite casual but at the same time I dont want to look like Im chopped liver! What should I say? How would you react to this?

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Hello good:

I'd believe him. So what? He's STILL treating you like chopped liver. This is Valentines day, for crying out loud... He's a LOUT. If it were me, that's what I'd text him.

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Sounds like you either don't trust this guy, or you have low self esteem that leads you to believe that he would lie to get out of a date with you. (I don't mean that in a nasty way by the way.lol) You seem to have more feelings this guy than you are letting on, otherwise you wouldn't be so bothered and wouldn't even entertain the thought that he could have gone on another date. Do you really want to be "casual?" with him? If not, tell him. The unfortunate thing about being casual with someone is you have no real "rights" so to speak as you both have total freedom of whom you date/how many people you date. As for believing his reason as to why he cancelled, if he has lied, it more often than not comes out in the end anyway. Either way, it's his loss. :) Meet up with him on the rearranged date and see how that pans out :)

If you're casual, don't swear it. Just go out with some friends tonight. Go out with him tomorrow night. Don't get obsessive like so many people do. Keep your cool.

I don't understand why people put such importance on Valentines day. It's just another day, used by chocolate companies, jewelers, card stores and flower shops to make some extra money.

I would believe him. He asked you out, not the other way around. He confirmed the date earlier today. Why would he suddenly change his mind unless something came up that he couldn't put off? He didn't cancel, he rescheduled. Your date will be just as special tomorrow. In fact, it will probably be better, because it won't be as crowded and crazy tomorrow night.

I'd say text him back and tell him that you understand and would love to see him tomorrow.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

I don't understand why people put such importance on Valentines day. It's just another day, used by chocolate companies, jewelers, card stores and flower shops to make some extra money.

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You and I share the same view on this. I can't stand commercialism.
Cheers.

I would accept the second date, because he asked for a second date. If he wasn't interested, or telling the truth, he would have not bothered with the second date, after cancelling the first.

Reminds me of a rule of thumb my Grandmother used to say. Once is by accident, twice is on purpose.

I would give it a shot.

He already rescheduled with you. If he was serious about you, he would make it up to you. If he really cared about you, he would show you.

If he's taking things lightly, then you don't need Valentine's Day to tell you that, it would be obvious throughout the year.