Obviously I will bring this up with my psychiatrist. :P

But I wanted some 'real people' advice too.

I keep REALLY REALLY wanting a baby. I even have ideas about just finding a flin to try to get pregnant.

Good thing is, for all my desires, I'm not stupid, and I certainly know better than to go just get knocked up for a nesting instinct LOL

But I would like any ideas on how to curb this desire lol. I am still in school, struggling with my 7 year olds nurologist appointments, and trying to find a job. I Definitely don't need another child :P

I find that actually being around a screaming child, especially a screaming infant, makes me think of why I really don't want a kid right now. And when that doesn't work, I start adding up how much a crib, stroller, car seat, diapers, etc would cost and compare it to how much I actually make and imagine trying to fit a crib into my tiny bedroom. It's enough to make me not want a kid any time soon. :)

Hehe the screaming one miht not help cause when I hear screaming baby's I always want to hold them. :P

But definitely the add up the price idea!! I'm definitely going to do that in the morning and post it on my fridge :P thanks hon

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

i am still in school, struggling with my 7 year olds nurologist appointments, and trying to find a job.

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That should be your answer right there.

Oh it is karma. But that doesn't stop me from wishing :P and I want to get rid of those wishes for now. JCs answer actually is helping a lot. I'm not even half done with the list of costs and its already at almost 10k!

I want to be married to Mick Jagger, own a Ferrari, and live in a mansion with a cook and bottle washer.

But, that too is wishful thinking.

Wanting, and being realistic are two different things. While you would I'm sure, find a way to support another child, even under the circumstances you are now in, the point is, is it really a good idea, thinking about the baby, to bring a baby into the picture? I would enjoy the idea of someday having another child, but, only after goals are met, including being well employed, with money in the bank, and a secure future that you can provide yourself.

If you feel the need to fight to separate the desire to have a child, from the reality of having a child, in addition to writing out the costs, also write out what the other hardships would be, for both you, and your other child. And if your goal is to become independent and self supporting, start with the fact that adding another child would make reaching personal goals that much harder. Then list what those goals are too.