My ex says she wants a month break - I need help here... If anyone can take the time
(Me and my girl spent everyday togeather txting or spending way too much time... we both knew it we both don't work or have anything going for us.. I am extreamly jealous and sensitive.. and I was playing games with her for the past while... the relationship wasent going good cause we spent so much time togeather but we loved the **** outa each other I adored her she adored me)
Ok, so about 4 weeks ago me and my girlfriend broke up mutually, then within hours I knew it was a mistake and for the next 3 weeks I begged, cryed and I wanted her back to badly. She kept telling me she's hurt and she dosen't know I can change.. But every time I said **** it I'm moving on... she always paniced and made sure I was waiting for her, so that ezactly what I did I waited and waited for 3 weeks intill I started getting sick of it, she really coulden't decide so I said yo I'm dropping your stuff off.. you can talk to me or not but I'm moving on... So she agreed to it
So we meet up the other night at a coffer shop I buy her a tea, and we sit down and start talking. So I'm like imma change I isn't never going to hurt you.. you can trust me or not but I need to move on... so she crys and says she misses me and everything but she needs space, so I'm like OK fine then I'm moving on... so not even 5min later she takes me back and we agree to make it work...
So we go back to her place and we sit down and kiss and hug and tell each other we love each other... Not even 2 hours later she's second guessing it... Now she's telling me she needs time to figure herself out... she needs time to get a job and make herself feel like someone... So again I get sucked back into this break, But now instead of the break being because I can't change, its not because she needs time to figure her self out and get a job and so on and says I need to do the same.
We spend the night together, and we spend the whole night telling each other we love each other, holding each other, having sex, kissing, cuddling and adoring each other... She continues to say she needs a month to figure her self out so in the end we can be happier... and I agree and I support her, and now instead of her saying "If we get back" its now "When we get back" she says at the end of the month we can do a big valentine thing togeather and spend some time together and everything... she ensures me she doesn't want to see other people... She also said the only way that we won't get back togeather is if I find someone else or if I decide I don't want to... she said she knows she wants me in her life for ever...
I wake up and I'm about to leave she starts to cry and says this is hard... we have sex one more time hug and I leave... I get home and I start analyzing everything and I felt like she was taking advantage of me being weak for her... and I felt like I had no one.. and I felt used, so we start to have a bad fight... but the fight ended with each other saying I love you... the next day I called her and we talked about it and I said.. you know what I really need time to figure out what I want and who I am I got to figure my **** out... anyway when I'm about to hang up I'm like ill talk to you sometime in the future... and she crys and says don't say it like that, and I say OK ill talk to you soon babei, I love you... and she said better, and I love you too ill always be thinking about you, and I said ill always be thinking about you too...
I am really ****ing confused about this **** lol, what is the best thing I can do in this situation I need opinions... because all I am doing is sitting here being sad I don't have her, and analyzing every single possibility and outcome... any advice would be great...
Also she said I can leaves my stuff there cause its not going to be the last time we see each other... we both don't have to manyy friends it was just me and her... we always planned to have babies get married and spend our lives together... she was everything to me and I was everything to her
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Good luck. You two need to communicate.. . The history of your relationship so far proves that. Communicate, love each other and move forward.