OK, I'm 16 years old, my parents are divorced and right now I live with my dad Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. And I live with my mom Wednesday night, Thursday, and Friday and then we switch off weekends. My dad has been dating his fiancé for about 8 years now and I've never really liked her.. and now that they're getting married she's been a more pain in the *** then ever. I've talked to my mom about this and she agrees. My mom has been married to my step dad for about 8 years and now they're getting a divorce, I love my step dad so I'm still going to see him. But back to living at my dads, at my dads house I feel as if I'm always in trouble, I can't be myself around any of them.. I can remember my dad not being what he is now about 5 years ago. Now he's all uptight and he's gained weight and he's changed I don't know how to explain it. But we disagree on a lot. I'm a good kid, I don't do drugs, drink, or any of that. He nags about my grades but I understand that, all parents do that. I just like living with my mom more because she understands me and accepts me for who I am and doesn't look down on me. Also my dads fiancé has been getting deep into my business lately and I do not feel comfortable about it. I just need some advise on what to do. It would be great if I could live with my mom for the week and see my dad on the weekends or every other weekend. Don't get me wrong, I love my dad its just that I feel like a prisoner whose done nothing wrong when I'm at his house. I'm not complaining or anything I just need some advise.

Thanks.

Do you have a year and half of high school left? That seems forever, but it isn't, and soon you will be on your own anyway, free to go anywhere you want at 18. Right now you have to do what the court ordered in the custody settlement, unless your parents can agree with each other to change it. Have a quiet, mature heart to heart with each one about your reasoning. Don't dwell on not liking the new wife, just on the positive reasons for spending more time with your mother (such as personal sensitive things a teen girl wants to know only from her mother, and the value of being in one place for school.)

Your mom has to go to court and file for a modification of the custody order. At 16 your wishes will probably be listened to.

Well you have to ask yourself this question do you want to live with your dad anymore because you are old enough to choose because if you don't like being there then have your mom take you to a worker and tell them your problem they can help

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Originally Posted by iliavejur

well you have to ask your self this question do you want to live with your dad anymore because you are old enough to choose because if you don't like being there then have your mom take you to a worker and tell them your problem they can help

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In no US state can a minor (under 18) choose what parent to live with. What do you mean by a "worker"? Unless there is is a case of abuse a social worker or case worker will not get involved.

The only way to affect a change in custody (unless there is abuse) is by filing a request for modification with a court.