Am I just wasting my time
I have been dating the same guy for almost seven years. We have a very good relationship most of the time until I bring up marriage. He is 36 and I am 43. He has NEVER been married and I was married when I was 19 and I have a daughter in college now.
He still lives at home and his mother does everything for him... She irons his clothes everyday and puts them on his bedroom door and packs his lunch and his gym bag. When he comes home his plate is waiting for him... she heats it up and he eats... get up and she does the rest... she makes his bed washes his clothes starts his car... you name it... she does it for him.
I feel he will never want to move out or start a life with me because she maeks it so he doesn't want for anything. We have broken up 2 or 3 times because I wanted more and he always says he's sorry and he does want to marry me. So because I love him so much and want a life with him I go back. Well now its been over a year again and he still has not made any effort to change anything! Please I do not want to be stupid anymore like my friends and his friends tell me. But its hard when you don't just want to get married you are madly in love with someone that will not make a life with you... he will not even move out and get his own place. Which I think would help.. So What DO I DO!!
Should I just face the facts and believe what eveyone tells me... that he will never marry me. Its so hard to face... I Love him so much. He is all I want. But I need more in my life than to see him a few hours 5 days a week. And only get to wake up with him once or twice a month. Its so sad to want so much more and he just will not give it to me. I tell him... If this is the way you want it tell me because I will move on and he will tell me that no someday he wants to marry me... So with that I keep holding on... but how long can I do this... Does it make me a bad person because I want more and I don't want this life anymore... I want a life together not 3 or 4 hours a day and then he goes home and I am alone again...
Please HELP M...
Bridgette7