My x husband has had sole care of my three boys for some years and I pay child support for my youngest child who is 17 yrs. All the boys and x husband live in the home that I purchased before we were married. We have a mortgage due to renovations. My x is paying off the mortgage, rates and insurance seen as rent. He is choosing to stay until my youngest son finishes school. All renovations were meant to be completed with in a year over a year ago and house on the market.( as stated by my solicitor). He has given away furniture that belonged to us both. I would like him to move out and I want to live with my boys in my home. I do visit my children when I can and stay at the home. I could not afford a place to cater for my kids. I just feel that my x has spent many years with my boys and I have a right to live with them in my home. I feel if I rock the boat it will cause my kids to reject me.

So you will hire your attorney and make a motion in court to change custody and change living arrangements.

It will be hard since he appears to have had this for some times. Next how are you going to afford this home, if you can't afford a place of your own for the boys

You say he is choosing to stay until the 17 year old finishes; is that this year, and is he saying he has plans to go elsewhere? Can't you go there (as you have in the past) to visit and discuss having the house back then? Since all but the youngest are adults, they should be able to also discuss this as adults, and how long are they expecting to live at home?

We are going 50/ 50. To afford is something I have to look into and I could rent out 2 rooms to help with repayments. I was not and am not in a position to rent out a 3/4 bedroom house. If my x would have let me have shared care it would have been OK