I'm 18 years old and I have a slight crush on this 14 year old boy. He's very cute and look like he can be about 18 perhaps if he really is ( NOT ). I enjoy talking to him and hanging with him but the thing is I'm scared of SEX and I'm waiting until I'm married, we have the same similarities in a lot of things. He play bball and I do, he's cute so am I lOl. Case is I have a lot of guys that want to talk to me but I just want him for some reason. Its not like I got my eyes set for him , its just that he got something that I want and love. Look at Carmelo and Lala, they look so happy. Lala is about 5 years older then Carmelo , I don't see nobody judging but I do see the point here. His parents will make the rules because he is under age. But what do I do? :((

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Originally Posted by great1

But what do i do ? ? ? ? ? :((

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You do NOTHING of a romantic nature with him because he is what is commonly called "jail bait". Even if you don't have sex, you can get in trouble because of the age difference.

You should also seek counseling about why you would be so attracted to a child.

The same rules apply whether its an 18 year old women and a 14 year old boy or a 18 year old man and a 14 year old girl.

What is wrong with guys your own age?

I have to agree with scottgem here, you need to seek councilling for your attraction to a child,and that's what he is,no matter what he looks like.

Your attention to him could be considered grooming of a minor by people in authority for example, his teachers and the police.

There is no counsling , because this is not a problem. I want to know what I need to do because Im just to cool of a person to make dumb decisions like this. This is the first so its not a constantly thing that just goes on in my life. The worst thing about it guys will lie just to get with a certain girl. I mean he like meeee so what do you want me to do. Im giong up just like everybody. I just need advise. That's all I want. I agree with what your saying with the minor thing but I don't know what to do.

Question is what is the difference when your older ?

The difference when your older is you have common ground, and its legal.

What do you do, you walk away.
At 14 he hardly knows who he is, how can he be honest with you about his feelings when he has nothing to base it on, no life experience, no relationship experience, he's just a kid who's growing up.

Physically your grown, but your still growing mentally and emotionally, everyone is, there is a life lesson here for you, don't be blindsided by the fact yo uhave a crush on him, your on quicksand,it will only cause heartache and trouble if you pursue it... walk away, that's what you do.

Learn about yourself, grow, you don't need to be with a guy to do that, find out who you are, what kind of women you want to be, what I'm saying here is, its time to grow up and leave the teenage romances behind, get your head together and move forwards.

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There is no counsling , b/c this is not a problem. I want to know what I need to do b/c Im just to cool of a person to make dumb decisions like this. This is the first so its not a constanly thing that just goes on in my life. The worst thing about it guys will lie just to get with a certain girl. I mean he like meeee so what do you want me to do. Im giong up just like everybody. I just need advise. Thats all I want. I agree with what your saying with the minor thing but idk what to do.

Question is what is the difference when your older ?

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What do you mean what is the difference when your older?
Where do you live? We can give you the statute for age of consent if that will help clear things up?

I'm OVER him now , yaw were right the whole time.. . Thanks , I also have a boyfriend but this time we are around the same age so I'm good and happy! Thank youu all