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  • Feb 2, 2011, 11:38 PM
    Lizzy13
    My ex still loves me but I don't feel the same HELP!
    Me and my ex boyfriend broke upabout a month ago and He keeps telling me how much he still loves me and wants me back but I just want to be buddys like we were before we started going out. 3 days after we broke up he kissed one of my best friends to make me jealous and I was so pissed at him! He apolagized and told me he was just usig her but I was still mad. I finally forgot about it but now our friendship is really akward and he was like my best bud before but now we don't even talk just text and I miss him as a friend but I'm scared he will try something. PLZZZZZ HELP ME!! Wht do I dooooo??
  • Feb 3, 2011, 12:35 AM
    musicman84
    A line was crossed when you both went from being best buddies to emotionally attached in a relationship. Maybe in time you will both find a way back to that friendship, but for now you are both better off without each other. He will not let go of his love for you easily if you stick around and I guarantee that he will ALWAYS see your gestures of friendship as more, because that is what his heart wants.

    If you care about him, you need to find friendship from somebody else and let him go so that he can heal. You may miss him and it may hurt to have lost the friendship you both had, but sometimes you have to do what is right for the sake of another.
  • Feb 3, 2011, 10:12 AM
    answerme_tender

    He is not your friend, he is your ex-boyfriend. You cannot continue have frequent contact with him due to this. You both need time to get over this relationship, perhaps him more since you are the one to break off the relationship.

    Of course he is going to do things to try and make you jealous enough to come back to him. But if your not around him or in contact with him you won't be effected by these stunts!!

    Given time, you will be able to be acquaintances. But for now you need to cut off all contact, no phone,no texting, no computers!!

    Take care
  • Feb 3, 2011, 06:35 PM
    talaniman

    You have little choice but to leave him alone because, things will never be just friends again, as long as he wants more than that. Until he gets over that feeling, it will be a disaster for you both, and you will both be hurt.

    Let him go, and leave him alone, so he can heal, and get over his need to have you as a girlfriend, and not a buddy.

    At this time, being friends would be cruel, since you know how he feels about you, and hopes if he hangs around and goes along with being friends, you will get the feeling back, and change your mind. That would be false hope.

    Maybe someday he will be a buddy again, but not now for sure.

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