I am nineteen years old and have been sexually active for three years, but have yet to achieve an orgasm. I have tried a lot of things, including lots of foreplay, the use of vibrators, and stimulating creams, but nothing has worked. I don't think it's a psychological thing, but I could be wrong. If you have any ideas on how to help, they would be much appreciated. Thanks.

When you are by yourself and masterbate can you reach one then. Have you tried to tell your partner as to what you like and what feels good

Many ( MANY) women can not orgasm with penetration and do so only in foreplay or after play

I have never, EVER, had an orgasm, through masturbation, or intercourse, or anything in between. I have tried telling my partner exactly what to do, letting them try new things on me, ****.oral stimulation, g-spot stimulation, talking dirty, vibrators. I have literally tried everything. It seems like any time I get close I just can't take it any more. It's like I'm itchy under my skin, and it drives me crazy.

You can not tell him what to do, until you know

What Fr_Chuck is trying to say is you can't get your partner to bring you to orgasm until you bring yourself to orgasm.

How can you teach something you don't know? Think of it that way.

But I don't know, because I've never orgasmed, even though I am open to masturbation.

That drive you crazy and "almost there" itchy sensation probably means that you are being overstimulated. Try telling him to "lightly" rub or lick your clitoris while it is still under the little hood... or if your naturally "exposed" tell him to just rub gently one way. Be gentle with yourself and be patient... find out what your thing is, it could be lots of lubrication or lots of nipple play, try to watch porn and see if that kind of arousal will make it easier for you to come. You need to relax and try to get him to relax too... because if he is relaxed then he'll be more creative. Experiment :)

It IS psychological.

You're focusing too much on the orgasm, and not on what's leading up to it.

Enjoy what feels good and keep doing it if it feels good... and try like mad to not worry about whether THIS time it's going to push you over the edge.