Iam 23 years old and have 3 kids a 5 year old a 2 year old and a new born I am sick and tired of his crab he is a drunk and he is always promising things that he knows he is never going to do I moved out of my place of residency wich is Oregon because I love him and I wanted things to work out I've been with him for almost 7 years he used to treat me verry nice but its been about 5 years know that he's been treating me like **** emotionally and mentally I don't know what to do he's always saying bad words to me making me feel with a low selfstem he has even got to the point of scaring my children he screams he slams doors and has been about to hit me I don't know what to do? Well I know I need to get out of his side I just need the streinght to do it please someone help me?

Do you have any friends or family near by to help you?

I think you're right, I think you do need to leave. Situations like this tend to only get worse. If you can't find the strength to leave for yourself, do it for your children at least. My mom stayed with my dad for years. He was always verbally abusive and eventually it escalated to physical abuse. And it wasn't just towards her. It was towards my siblings and me too. Don't let it get to that point for your children. Get them out before it gets there.

Contact there nearest woman's shelter, advise them situation. They should have suggestions for you. You could also contact your church ask for help.

You are making the right choice to get out. No one should be a verbal punching bag for anyone!!

Take care

You really need to take the children and leave. His behavior is scary and it's only going to be a matter of time until he physically harms you.

A woman's shelter is a great idea. It would put you in a safe situation while you work out the details of what you're going to do.

You have the strength within you to leave. Believe me, it takes more strength to stay in that environment than to leave. Just look to your children to give you the additional stength you need. Remember, if you stay in that environment you will be teaching your children that abuse is a normal part of life.

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You both called it.

Abuse is abuse. It van be physical, mental, or emotional.
All can be devastating , especially to children.

Don 't put up with another day of it. You are needed by your children to give them strength and security even when you find it lacking which is normal in a case like this, but you will find it comes quickly when you realize you need it to protect your children and yourself.

And getting out of an abusive situation is protecting you and your children.
Abusers usually get worse and worse. The time is now.

You have the courage to ask about how to do it, and that is the first step. Take the rest of the steps to get you and your children into a safe environment that you deserve.