I have been friends with this guy for may years years now and as we got closer I started to have feelings for him. As the feelings started to grow I started liking him more and more. Then one day we have sex severals times at that. He cares for me he says but the things that is getting me is if we can hangout like couples do, talk on the phone late, kiss what is wrong with him asking me out.

Yuck! <~ Not at you... at him. He is like a cat to me.

You know... wants you around like a girlfriend when he feels like it (for his own self serving needs) and then when he doesn't he is totally off the hook because you are not exclusive.

So basically you are just dating w/ sex... so I think you should start looking for someone who really likes you - for you.

Don't worry about him...

Perhaps you should be the one to ask him where you and he stand..

Maybe he is afraid that you do not feel whatever he may be feeling.. or it is possible that he simple doesn't not want a relationship with you. I do not mean this to sound harsh however, you have provided him with fun (going out and hanging like a couple) and sex without the strings of a relationship. He has it pretty good right now and you are probably consider a FWB (Friend With Benefits). When a guy in this situation says "I care about you.." It is a string that leads the girl on to think she may possibly have a chance to be more than a FWB. This is 9 times out of 10 the reality. I would suggest this.. Stop having sex with him. NOW. If he presses for it tell him that you don't feel right sleeping with him when you are not "together". If he ignores you after that then it is better to have lost a 'friend' like him than to continue to letting him use you. If, however, he DOES in fact care he will make it official.
Good luck to you. I hope he turns out to be a good guy after all.

Maybe he does think your in a relationship!! If you go out like a couple,talk on phone like a couple, have sex like a couple, he says he has feelings for you----I myself am confused, why don't you feel like a couple. Just another point of view. Take care

What's wrong with you asking him out? What's wrong with you asking him WHY he hasn't ask you out. Next time he gets horny tell him you are hungry and need to go to a 5 star restaurant first. Hint at a movie, or play you want to see?

I am confused to I really like him he is a great guy and my feelings for him has gone deeper I just don't know where we stand at this point.

Don't go any deeper until you find out, and no sex until..!

Sometimes I get a little hurt because he sees all that I have to offer he know I am a great woman, great person and etc but yet he's not telling me what is it between us. Its like I am keep setting myself up to het hurt

Right now, you have a friend with benefits arrangement. Make things clear with him before you take the next step with him.

Stop having sex with him.
If he wants a dating relationship with you he will pursue one.
It sounds to me like he just wants a friend with benefits. If this is not what you want, stop doing it.