My girlfriend of 1.5 yrs wants a break. Everything was going great. She got a job at a grocery store and she met a guy there. At first it was just a casual friendship and then in a couple months he kept texting her saying how much he likes her and wants to be with her. She told him that she wouldn't just dump me for him. She promised me that she will never cheat on me or hurt me in anyway. That was over a year ago. She still works with the guy and the other day she told me she wants a break. I asked her why and she said because I have feelings for someone else. When she said that my world basically came rashing down. She said she wants space to try and figure out who she wants to be with. Her options are me-her boyfriend of 1.5yrs and who has done everything for her to make her happy or this guy who is known around my place o cheat on his girlfriend and he is a huge player. I told her that if she wants space then that's what ill give her and she has to talk to me when she is ready to talk to me. She says she still loves me and stuff and she wants to be with me. I don't know what to think. I don't want to lose her but how do I know if she is going to choose me? (p.s the guy has a gf)

My Girlfriend is dumping me too, over another guy I don't know - but some of the same reasons are given, she needs to find herself, or want some space..

I think you want me to tell you that she's going to pick you and so on.

But what I'm going to tell you is. You should dump her right away, if your in a working relationship and she want's to explore her emotions with some other guy.

But I'm not completely evil so I would suggest you to give her an ultimatum - tell her you love her, but you can not be in a relantionship with someone who would choose somebody else over you..
Think about it. I know you don't want to loose her, but do you really want to be in a relationship where she could change her mind if something new and exciting came along?

I don't know if she will choose you, but all you can do is let her go. Go NC and move on with your life.

How old are the two of you?

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she said she wants space to try and figure out who she wants to be with.

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I have heard this line, and all you can do is give her what she asked for. She wants space, let her have all she can handle and do your thing and heal. Don't look back! I know it sucks to high hell, but who wants to be an option with someone who has other priorities? Or a second choice because the other one doesn't work out? Naw, let her go, and when you are ready, you find a better one than the last one.

You shouldn't even be taken as an option. Think, is there anything that you have done wrong? If not, then I think that you should tell her that you need an answer now. She needs to look more closely of how faithful the guy is before getting into anything dumb, she might just be in for the moment of something new.

I hate to say this, just dump her. If she has guards to tell you that she has feelings for someone else. Don't worry about it. She is not meant to be yours. Just accept the fact that she is not yours.One thing important, the fact that she told you that she has feelings for someone else made her to have an upper hand and now you can't think straight.and inorder to get an upper hand is to dump her.then she will realise that she is losing.either way you can berg her now and win her back but believe me she will do it again, she has no respect for you and your relationship. I know it will be painful to you to dump her but Bra it won't change anything and in fact the chances are she will chose a new guy because she knows that you are available. So just die like a man bra dump her. Just tel her that she can go to hell. Then she will make up her mind. And don't expect her to come back. Just dump her and leave her.

Thank you all for your advice. I broke it off wit her 2 nights ago. And tonight she came running back to me crying and saing how sorry she was and stuff. I thought that if I did break it off with her then (if) she came back to me I would be happier than before but that's not the case. I can't look at her the same anymore knowing that when she tells me that "im the one" or "its me n u forever" I just don't believe her. Is there a way for me to love her again like the way I used to?

That will probably not happen. I think you should leave her alone. Tell her it's over.
Maybe things didn't work with the other guy. Do let her play you like that.

Follow your first mind and move forward, not back!

Nope she broke your trust, and it took 2 days, wonder what she spend them on!

Hey man it's a good thing you chose to break it off. I went through the Same scenario and your right you will never feel the same. I tried giving my ex time and after even a year passed after the break up I went to see her to catch up and I realized that I made a good choice and just let things be. You seem like a level headed guy and that's the way to be man. Stay strong and content and show her that your better off. She tossed you aside and played you like a fool for some other dumbass. You don't want to be with a girl that puts you second. Your Bette than that. You will end up talking to her down the road but keep it casual and stay ahead and be the guy that she missed out on. Good job man keep it up there are many guys that are in the same boat and would tell you the same thing. Keep it up, cheers.