Need closure from an old flame
I need some advice. Hopefully from a few men. I was in a 6 year relationship with a man starting when we were 20. Back then we started to grow apart even though we were just in love with one another. We worked for the same company and were a huge part of one another's life. After the break up we stayed in touch every now and then. Until I met someone and became pregnant. I told him myself that I was having a child and we really didn't contact one another for about two years. When I did send a "hi" email. He wouldn't always respond. Now it's years later and I have two children and divorced. When I was getting divorced I contacted him and we had an email thing going back and forth and cathing up. We met up and it was like no time had passed. I ended up going home with him that night and rushed out in the morning. I couldn't face him and he seemed like he didn't know what to say when he woke up and I was already dressed to leave. We exchanged a few emails and it would end... time and time again the email thing would happen. I haven't seen him in a year and it's hard that I just can't seem to let go of this man in my life. It truly prevents me from moving on. I was in touch with him about a month ago and out of no where I said... "can't be that i still hurt over you" he said he knows what I mean and he still thinks of me often and stuff. I asked why he doesn't keep in touch more and he said he wasn't sure. He think it's because he would want me more than he already does. So I wrote a whole long email saying I need you to give me or help me to get closure on this. It's been years and I'm still hurting. I want to be able to let it go. So please tell me whatever is in your life that would help me. Tell me your happy or getting marriee or having a baby. Tell me you will always love me but it's not love like it was back then.. (he is not married and I don not know if he is in a relationship at this time). Anyway, he did not respond to my request. In fact.. didn't respond at all. Why would he not want me to not hurt over him anymore. Is there anyone who can assist me on understanding this?
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I guess I'm just a different person. If someone needed that from me because they cared for me and needed to move on knowing my feelings.. I would give that to them. Even if I didn't care about that person in any real emotional way. Thank you :)