I'm 24/f, and I babysit my younger 11 year old sister 4 times a week, I severely spank my sister a lot because she doesn't always do her homework, or go to bed on time... I don't discus this with my mom, as she works a lot to support us... is this acceptable that I spank my sister on my lap when she out of control?

Severely? No, that is absolutely unacceptable. I get a swat on the bottom when their still in diapers, maybe. But spanking an eleven year old is not OK. Especially not if it is severely, as you said it is. There are much more effective ways to discipline her such as time outs, losing privileges, and some sort of reward system. And it doesn't matter how much your mother is working, if you are one of her primary caregivers then both of you need to be on the same page about discipline.

Why do you resort to spanking her?

Does that help? How does she react?

No, it's not okay, especially since you aren't her mother and the mother of the child is not aware that you're doing this.

There are other more acceptable ways of getting through to a child, especially an 11 year old. Hitting someone smaller than you, especially severely, is not okay at all.

Because she does not always listen, and I feel having her sit on my lap and spanked hard before bedtime is a good way to teach her who's boss when my mother is working a lot. She kicks, cries, screams, and sometimes curses at me...

You are kidding.
This is ASSAULT, pure and simple.
That's a CRIMINAL matter!!

... but as soon as she is on my lap with her panties down, she knows there's no way she can keep having her way as soon as my hand begins slapping each butt cheek, I like to get them red, sometimes pink. I feel this is a good way for me to teach her

I will continue spanking her harshly on my lap as I see fit, as long as I want, and will continue punishing her every day if I have to

Maria, can I ask where you live? An exact address would be nice so that I can call child protective services.

If this story is true, and I'm thinking you're just a troll, then what you're doing is assault. Hopefully your sister tells someone what you're doing, then you'll be getting spanked by Heidi, the big angry German woman that's sharing your cell with you. Don't worry though, Heidi is only trying to teach you a lesson. :(

Oh, and just a side note. Don't have kids of your own.

I'm thinking this is a troll. ;)

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Originally Posted by J_9

I'm thinking this is a troll. ;)

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That's my guess too. Probably some bored kid. The writing doesn't sound like a 24 year old, more like the 11 year old. ;)

Gosh I really hope this is a troll...

If not, I shall at least try to answer.

You are NOT her mother. She doesn't HAVE to listen to you. Children WILL listen to other adult family members. But really, they only HAVE to listen to mom and dad. I REALLY hope your mother finds out about this so that this child can be removed from your care and YOU can be aprehended for child abuse.

I'm so happy I have such a wonderful teen who takes care of my 8 year old when I'm at work. This is so sad and a terrible case of abuse.

At your age, particularly, you should know that corporal punishment to such a degree as you describe, is not okay, under any circumstances.

I worry that you don't have the intellect, understanding, or maturity to understand that.

You realize that you are not 'teaching' your younger sister anything, or 'correcting' behaviour or 'showing her who's boss'.

If this 11 year old were four years old, you wouldn't risk her bruises being seen by your mother, or by her playschool teachers.

If you were babysitting another child, surely you realize that the parents of that child would report you.

I also presume that your sister has not told her mother what you are doing, and part of her 'punishment' includes threats to keep her silent.

I'm not sure what your question is. IF you are for real and not a troll, you should immediately take steps to not be in charge of your sister. I think you realize you have to tell your mother what is going on, and she needs to make alternate arrangements. With the 11 year old in school, maybe it is just a matter of after school care for a few hours a day.

You have options, including at your age, to move out and get your own place.

What you are, is an abuser, and it is no less a crime because you are related to your victim. If you cannot stop yourself from taking your anger out on a child this way, you have no business being in charge, while you are so out of control yourself.