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  • Jan 23, 2011, 09:28 PM
    shehe
    Hi, me and my partner have never tried oral sex.
    We want to give it a go. But we feel bit filthy putting our mouth inside there. Do you have any suggestion how can we give each other oral without actually directly putting our mouth there? We were told there are some other ways to do it.
  • Jan 23, 2011, 09:38 PM
    excon

    Hello s:

    Nahhh. You got to dive right in... I'd rent a couple porn videos to find out if it's for you.

    excon
  • Jan 23, 2011, 09:47 PM
    Cat1864

    Due to posting restrictions on the Adult Sexuality Board, would you please state your ages?
  • Jan 23, 2011, 10:11 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes, by their commit I would have to guess JR HIGH or from a seriously religious background.
  • Jan 24, 2011, 04:31 PM
    shehe
    Comment on Cat1864's post
    Yes sure we are both in our 50,s. Bit late learner.
  • Jan 24, 2011, 04:35 PM
    excon

    Hello again, s:

    50's huh? Wow. I don't know. Oral sex isn't really fringe any more, if it ever was.. If you haven't tried by now, maybe it's not for you. Especially since you think it's filthy. At your age, you'll NEVER get past that.

    excon
  • Jan 24, 2011, 06:15 PM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by shehe View Post
    we want to give it a go. But we feel bit filthy putting our mouth inside there. Do you have any suggestion how can we give each other oral without actually directly putting our mouth there? We were told there are some other ways to do it.

    I don't think that there is anything "filthy" about oral on the person you love and trust.

    That's just me...

    Not to mention, you will be missing out.

    However,If you must go that route, then have him line it with plastic wrap. LOL
  • Jan 25, 2011, 07:52 AM
    smoothy

    You can't go down the freeway... without actually getting on the road.
  • Jan 25, 2011, 08:51 AM
    Synnen

    You know, the OP says "partner", and not boyfriend or husband.

    Just for clarification (and I apologize if I am wrong)--OP, are you both female?
  • Jan 25, 2011, 09:14 AM
    martinizing2

    When I first ventured into oral sex it was with trepidation and great fear of the unknown .

    I thought it may turn out to be a nasty and unsavory thing, but since I had to prove my manhood , and most of my friends at the time had not ventured there I needed to be the one to tell the tale.

    The tale turned into an encyclopedia.
    When I experienced the level of pleasure and passion this provided to my partners I knew I hit the right spot.

    The thoughts of it being dirty, and nasty lasted for upwards of three minutes. Then it was full throttle damn the torpedoes!

    All that's required is common good hygiene , and some pointers from a porno or two to get the ball rolling.

    Girl on girl is the most instructional I think,
    When you own the equipment you know more of how to use it to it's full potential.

    I wish you well.
  • Jan 25, 2011, 07:48 PM
    JudyKayTee

    I'm confused by the "putting our mouth INSIDE there" comment.
  • Jan 25, 2011, 07:55 PM
    jenniepepsi

    Given that the OPs screenname is SheHe, and 'inside there' was mentioned, I am going to assume, that she is a girl, and her partner is a girl. As you can't really put your mouth INSIDE a penis

    If you both want to try, go for it. You will never know if you will like it if you don't try. Honestly in my own opinion, oral sex is the BEST part of sex. But everyone is different and I have met those who hate it.

    Its all about what you and your partner want, not what everyone else things you 'should' do.
  • Jan 27, 2011, 06:20 PM
    shehe
    Comment on jenniepepsi's post
    Sorry for confusion, No I am not lesbian. I am talking about me and my husband.
  • Jan 27, 2011, 06:22 PM
    shehe
    Comment on JudyKayTee's post
    I have already said sorry for confusing question. This is about me and my husband, Female and male couple.
  • Jan 28, 2011, 07:50 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Then I don't understand why both of you are reluctant to put your mouth "into" there -

    Otherwise you've received good advice.

    My only other thought about this would be that I think sex should be more spontaneous and less planned out - but maybe that's just me.
  • Jan 28, 2011, 09:27 AM
    Cat1864

    You don't have to put your mouth or tongue into any place you aren't comfortable. Why not start at a place you are and work your way to the area that you aren't. Stop when the feeling of being uncomfortable grows too strong.
  • Jan 28, 2011, 09:46 AM
    smoothy

    Usually if one gets rid of the shrubery it will be more pleasant...



    Who likes sucking on a wig after all...
  • Jan 28, 2011, 11:31 AM
    Enigma1999
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Then I don't understand why both of you are reluctant to put your mouth "into" there -

    Otherwise you've received good advice.

    My only other thought about this would be that I think sex should be more spontaneous and less planned out - but maybe that's just me.

    I absolutely agree with this, I had to spread the rep.

    I too believe that sex should more spontaneous. After all what's the fun in just planning it out? Nothing really.

    OP, you guys need to feel comfortable with this. If you're not... then don't do it.

    I will tell you this though, if not, then you're missing out.
  • Jan 28, 2011, 11:32 AM
    martinizing2

    Smoothy s idea of trimming is a good one and it adds a bit of change (if it is a new thing) that can always spice things up a bit.
  • Jan 28, 2011, 11:51 AM
    martinizing2

    I will add a little planning may not be a bad thing.
    A bottle of wine and a candle lite shower for a little prep may help set the mood for some experimentation.

    It may be hard to overcome preconceptions regarding this and may be best approached a step at a slow easy pace.

    All in all I think you will be happy with the rewards this can bring.

    I wish you well

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