If I want to go on the pill do I have to get a pelvic exam when I go, and also is there anway my parents can find out about it, like if I use there insurance for the exam?
Would really appreciate help

To go on the pill you do not need a pelvic exam, and your parents need not to find out. You can just go to the doctors and ask its private and confidention.

That seems doubtful to me... my parents found out. Try finding a planned parenthood near you.. it's free and birthcontrol is super cheap. Have you considered condoms or diaphraghm?