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  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:00 PM
    lsm123
    I need help
    Hi. I just had a daughter she is 5 1/2 weeks now. There is a possibility of 2 men being the father. One is white. One is black (brown skinned). I am light skinned. My daughter is brown skinned but her hands and feet are light & she has features of the white man, such as his hairline. She looks like me bt when she was first born her and the white dude took a pic together and look alike. I can't afford a paternity test right now. Can anyone help me?
  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:02 PM
    Curlyben
    The ONLY way you will find out who the father is will be with the test.
  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:03 PM
    justcurious55

    A paternity test is the only way to determine who the father is.

    What is your relationship like with the two potential fathers? Do they both realize they might be the father? I would make sure they both know, if they don't already.
  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:21 PM
    lsm123
    No they both knew I was pregnant but only the white knws he might be the father. He doesn't know there's another possibility. He thinks she's his. She has his bottom lip, hairline and chin. She has no features of the other man. The black man and his brother look JUST alike. So I figure their genes are strong. The only thing is she has darker skin. Sometimes she's kind of light. She has dark straight/curly hair. I just don't know
  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:22 PM
    lsm123
    Comment on lsm123's post
    Also me and the black guy used protection.
  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:28 PM
    lsm123
    Comment on lsm123's post
    I figured it's a possibility of being his because of her skin color.
  • Jan 22, 2011, 03:29 PM
    justcurious55

    Doesn't matter if you used protection or not. Anytime you have sex, even when using multiple forms of protection correctly, there is still always a chance of becoming pregnant. Protection just makes it less likely.

    You owe it to your daughter and to both men to do the right thing and figure out a way to get a paternity test done.
  • Jan 22, 2011, 04:00 PM
    liongal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lsm123 View Post
    I am light skinned. My daughter is brown skinned but her hands and feet are light & she has features of the white man, such as his hairline. She looks like me bt when she was first born her and the white dude took a pic together and look alike. I can't afford a paternity test right now. Can anyone help me ??

    What does the above underline mean? Yr Black, but light in complexion?
  • Jan 22, 2011, 05:14 PM
    joypulv
    You can't possibly know by her looks, or their looks, or even skin color, so how would anyone here?
    Ask each man to chip in half of the test, or start saving your pennies.
    You can't have the tests without their cooperation anyway.
    If one man seems eager to be her dad, and he turns out to not be, what will you do then? The other man may refuse the test and where will you be then?
  • Jan 23, 2011, 06:44 PM
    lsm123
    I am white, black, & indian; with light skin. The white man also has indian in him too. His gma is a full blooded indian . She looks like him . Idont see the other man in her at all .
  • Jan 23, 2011, 06:49 PM
    lsm123
    Comment on joypulv's post
    Idnt know what I'd do. 1 of them will take the test. & when the results come back I will know. How can't I know by looks? I look just like my father. She looks like him . She has his chin, hairline, bottom lip, & the top of his head of the white guy
  • Jan 23, 2011, 07:00 PM
    jenniepepsi

    Looks won't tell you everything. I heard of a couple, both of whom were white, and had a black baby. Did a paternity test, and it was his. Turns out there was african ancestors on her side of the family, and they cropped up.
  • Jan 23, 2011, 09:21 PM
    lsm123
    Comment on jenniepepsi's post
    -. Omq . That is crazy. Ive never heard of that before. But thank you.
  • Jan 23, 2011, 10:30 PM
    justcurious55

    Jennie's story was sort of an extreme example of ancestor's genes popping up, but it really isn't that uncommon. For example, neither of my dad's parents had blue eyes, they both had brown. But his great grandfather had blue eyes. My dad, and some of my siblings and me all have blue eyes. So, looks can be deceiving. That's why the only way to be 100% sure is to have the paternity test done.

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