I've been dating a guy for almost three weeks and all we do is kiss and cuddle. When it gets any heavier he pulls away. He actually told me, "I hope you don't think I'm Gay" on several occasions.He says"its not like I don't want to.. But he doesn't say why. He refers to me as his girlfriend. I'm starting to wonder if maybe he is gay. Or has VD? A friend told me she slept with him years ago and that he has a tiny penis? Could he be so self conscious about it he is scared. Or is he not into me? I've made the first move many times and its if he's scared of it.

Three whole weeks, huh?

How old are you two?

Yeah, maybe he is gay or has vd. Or, maybe, here's a crazy thought, maybe he actually is interested in getting to know you and having more than just a sexual relationship with you. Maybe he wants you guys to actually be able to talk about things like this before he gets into your pants.

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Yes he could be self conscious. What if some woman made fun of him? I agree that maybe he wants to know if the rest of all that goes into a relationship exists or not first.

I agree with Justcurious. He's not a young guy, someone that needs to conquer every woman sexually. Maybe he just wants to get to know you first. It's only been 3 weeks. Even at 3 months I'd still say that you're very early in your relationship.

Wanting to have sex and having the maturity and restraint to wait are two different things. Sex is fun, so I believe him when he says he wants to. I also believe that he's not the kind of guy that sleeps with every girl he dates. He has class. He's taking it slow. That's a good thing.