My boyfriend lost his job 4 months ago and is depressed, how do I help him?
HI, my boyfriend, me and my two children moved into a place together about 6 months ago about a month later he lost his job and went on unemployment and was looking for a job, going out handing out resumes. At one of the places he got called into three weeks later the guy was a jerk and disrepectful. After that he started staying in our room all the time. I tried to help but nothing seemed to work. After a while he was always blameing me for stuff I had no control over, and it would cause fights. I talked to a friend and she said he sounds depressed. So I looked it up and tried to be more understanding, and at the same time let him no its not okay to put me down, just because he's going through something. One day he told me he needed to get away and was heading back home to his family (parents) and was going to look for a job. This distroyed my but I have to let him help himself I can't be selfish. A month later he called and asked if he could come home. I was so happy, and things were great for a month or two and now right back to the way it was, except now there's no intimacy, no kissing, holding hands nothing. When he gets mad he tells me to leave and then tells me he's sorry he doesn't know how to deal w things. I have offerd to go see someone w him or to be there for him while he sees someone but he refuses. He's a great guy and wonderful to my children, I miss the man he was and hate seeing him like this. If anyone knows a company hiring truck drivers in nj with 20+ yrs exp let me know. I know if he starts working again he will start feeling better. Any advise on how to help him?
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Thank you so much for taking the time to help me out. I think your right, it might be time to look from the outside and figure out what is best for me and my children. Thanks again.
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Thank you so much everyone, I did let him no that I will not let him speak to me that way. It has stopped, I don't think he realized he was doing it, he was just projecting how he was feeling on to me. I stayed and stood by him. I let him know how I felt and that I was understanding about what he was going through, and I would be there as long as he needed but he had to want someone there. And if he wanted to be alone I would leave. Things are great again. I've never been happier, there was light at the end. Thank use again
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Good stuff jstevens2757, glad it is working out.